I dont't know what to talk about with my boyfriend on the phone.
We've just met two days ago, and I have no idea what to talk about with him on the phone.
any ideas?
(what do you guys talk about?)
2007-03-04 23:56:40 · 11 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people are just not comfortable talking on the phone. You met two days ago and already you are boyfriend and girlfriend????
It takes a while to establish a relationship. How did you just meet and become girlfriend and boyfriend so quickly? I personally think that you should become friends first and decide through friendship if you like each other before you make that commitment. You have to become friends first anyway. That way if you do date, then you establish things that you will and will not tolerate during dating. For example.... I demanded respect,,, if the guy wants to date more than one person, he needs to tell me so that way, it is fine if he wants to do that, but it is up to me if I want to date someone who is dating more than one person. I only dated one person at a time. That way, no one gets hurt. If he wants to date someone else, then he is to tell me first before he does it, because I do not allow cheating. It is disrespectful. I don't mind if the relationship is exclusive and we are dating each other only, then he wants a guys night out, that is fine.
What kinds of things do you want in a guy? I didn't want a guy who drinks or smokes. I have one now. It is nice. You discuss what you want in a guy and he should tell you what his desires are. I also told my guy that when we went out to eat that he pays for his and I pay for mine that way he will not expect anything after the meal. :) I am now with the same man I told. A year and a half later, we are dating and we have decided to wait until marriage if it leads down that road.
You talk about your likes/dislikes as in the daily ordinary stuff: Food, music, what you want to do in your life. What are your goals in life? Do you want to further your schooling, what are your career goals? As your relationship progresses you can discuss goas as in family oriented goals, like do you want children etc...
Ask him what his likes are. What things do you have in common. It is ok to have things that are not in common. Relax and get to know him and the conversation should flow naturally. If you are one of those people who do not naturally talk on the phone, tell him. He may be the same way. It may be only a 5 minute conversation. Most guys are not big talkers when they are on the phone.
2007-03-05 00:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yours must be a whirlwind courtship!
Anyway, I find it strange that you are at a loss for words on the phone with him with only 2 days of meeting him. Both of you should have tons of questions about each other to be able to get to know each other better.
You can always ask him about his likes, dislikes, his family, his studies, hobbies, interests, his ideals and most of all, topping them all, his opinions on love and sex!
He may also be at fault with your predicament. He may not know as well what to ask you. He could be nervous, or he may not be that intelligent. Perhaps it all depends on how your relationship with each other began. Good communication is a two way street, and a good relationship relies heavily on this. Both of you should work for it. Give it some time. If the situation does not improve you might as well quit him.
2007-03-05 08:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by grit240 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important to gage what interests you both have and work with that. Do you like similar music? Have you seen a good film lately? Often times you can just ask a guy about something simple like what sports they like and they can go on and on...leading to a discussion. However by no means am I saying don't get your interests in too, but considering you only just met each other, you are only getting to know each other now.
2007-03-05 08:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by xxSUMMERxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then maybe you have the wrong bf.
Seriously. It shouldn't be a chore.
If you only just met two days ago, how can you know him well enough to award him BF status?
2007-03-05 08:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the pound and get a dog. Then you can call him up to ask questions about how to deal with the dog. The possibilities are endless and if you break up, you always have the dog to keep you company.
2007-03-05 08:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you don't know...you don't the guy yet!!
Start any conversation, and let him do the talking, it's always better to listen in the beginning of a relation.
2007-03-05 08:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by Fredster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like 2 talk about skool, teachers, life, politics, recent events, how much we luv eachother, (lol) yea just come up w/ any random topic.
2007-03-05 08:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by yoyoyowatup3579 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i usually just talk about anything that gets to mind and i treat him da same as i would my friend becoz it makes the conversation that much better and easier. good luck man
2007-03-05 08:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you are to shy...when you grow up you will break out of it.......tell a funny story or a jOKe.....tell him about yourself and ask questions about him...tell him what you did today......tell him something sweet, it's ok to flirt with him he's your man
2007-03-05 08:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by sexsired 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wit my girl we can talk about any thing but it does not have to be about sex
2007-03-05 08:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by T-Money 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋