I met this guy from a club last night, and he was a pretty good dancer. We flirted, kissed several times, and he even left me a hickie on my neck. He asked me my number and we are having our first date tomorrow. The thing is.... what if he asks me to have sex with him on the first date? I want to have intimate relationship with him... and how should i tell him that?
2007-03-04 23:45:44 · 19 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you notice he stops going to clubs because he is interested in you and wants to do things with only you.
2007-03-04 23:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when?? girl you will end up giving it up by the end of the date. and the reason why I say that is because you have already allowed him to be all over you and he even left you a mark on your neck while you were at the club. I am surprised that you didn't go home with him after the club. The thing is, you do it when YOU feel like you want it. There are people out there that are going to tell you to wait for at least three or more dates or what ever the case might be, but the best thing to do is do it when YOU want to.
2007-03-04 23:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by Queen of the Nile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what YOUR motives are.
Wanting to get 'intimate' is not a sign of committment to a guy, it may appear that way to a woman, but truth is, it isn't.
If you want sex with him, then thats when you are ready, as long as there is no premise made for the future based on that decision or coersion in making the choice.
Remember though, what happens if he DOESN'T want sex (and before you all laugh!!) it does happen!
Too much emphasis placed on sex.
For some a one nighter is fine and dandy, to others its something to get a free cab home and to others it is the most precious gift they can give to someone.
Do it when YOU want.
2007-03-04 23:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by Jaws P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should never have sex on the first date. Unless you want and S.T.D. (think about it- if he is a fast mover then he has been a fast mover before this)
you ask how you can tell him you want to have an intimate relationship with him?
you do not want to have an "intimate relationship with him" and i am not saying that to be rude, Im saying it becaus I can see myself posting somthing like this 6 years ago.
You do not know him. You know you don't. No matter how much he can wisk you off your feet. when you know someone, and ONLY then, you can tell if you want an intimate relationship with them.
you have to stay in check of yourself. and if he wants to have sex just tell him no. because you have no clue who he is.
I know it's hard. Because i have been that girl. but you can not let yourself feel like your into a guy you don't know. always make him a friend before a lover. and a friend will not push you into sex. heck- do you kiss your friends? probbly not. give it at least a month of just getting to know him. and I know that's hard, but beleave me. It is not TOO hard. you see, some people don't need to do that, but the ones that rush in with guys do. and you sound like your all set up to rush- like you did at the club.
this is your life. choose for yourself. you don't have to do anything I am telling you. but I heard myself in your words and I can only hope you get smart way before I did.
time is on your side on this one. keep things slow. I would even recomened you marry him before your inbed with him, but once again that's me, and I had to learn from my mistakes, so I wish you the best.
2007-03-05 00:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by JenGem 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its not the right time to have sex with the guy you met last night...Give more time to know more about his/her personal background.. Sex is not a joke, it is for a serious relationship with both partner and they love each other.....
2007-03-04 23:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by edsky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump the gun and have sex on the very first date. It shows you're too easy target. Play hard to get and find out if sex is what he wants and than dump you.
2007-03-04 23:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no one can tell you if you should or you shouldn't have sex with him on the first date...no matter what people say you make the decisions in your life....it's your life and your body if you want to have sex with him then go ahead but if you don't, don't let him pressure you in doing what you don't want to do but remember please use protection
2007-03-04 23:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by sexsired 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! I mean if i wasn't wacked out of my suggestions, reason you do not probable understand what your doing while your inebriated do you? and the guy can lead you on. yet sober no flippin probability.
2016-12-18 06:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by erke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it on the first date. I know everyone says that but make him work for it. One date is not making him work for it. If he's keen on you he will work for it!
2007-03-04 23:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by bundy_bee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say not now you w*nker, wait till a few months at least!
2007-03-04 23:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by Laura S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋