right...it started at dinner the evening before last night. my bf told me he called his ex girlfriend and asked if this was ok. i replied 'yes' and was a little quiet because i was thinking about it afterwards. Then I started to think that maybe it was a good thing, theres nothing wrong with calling an ex and being friends. I told him this was how i felt and we hugged HOWEVER
last night i went over to his and he called me a psycho for reacting the way i did the night before when he told me. (I was only a little quiet while i was thinking about how i felt about it) anyway he referred to me as psycho about 3 times, while i was trying to explain i was fine with him calling the ex he said 'do u mind im trying to watch this...' it was a video sequence in final fantasy a ******* computer game! his whole attitude threw me off. clearly he didnt care what i had to say he just labelled me as this psycho...so i demanded that we take a break and then i left and drove home.
was this wrong of me?
2007-03-04 23:41:46 · 13 answers · asked by moomoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it was his total lack of respect for me that made me want a break...his priority druing the fight was his playstation how can i be with a guy who thinks im a psycho when im clearly not?
mayeb uv read through this and you agree with him? maybe I ddi react badly? i just need another individuals perspective
2007-03-04 23:42:15 · update #1
Sorry to break the news, but it sounds to me like he was wanting to break up with you. Your reaction wasn't psycho or even mildly wrong. You were given news out of the blue and took time to think about it- a sure sign of someone who values the other person and wants to provide an honest, well spoken answer. However, his comment at dinner was more than likely made in an attempt to get you to act like a "psycho" so this coward had an excuse to break up, or better yet, in his mind anyhow, to make you so angry at him that you did the breaking up. When that failed, he treated you like a total jerk the next day and said that you HAD acted like a psycho even though you hadn't. This DID cause you to walk out--- just what he wanted. Congratulations for not sticking around with this guy while he treated you like dirt! You didn't do anything wrong, but he tried to make you feel like you did. It sounds like he is a weak pathetic little boy. Go find yourself a man deserving of you. Good luck!
2007-03-04 23:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mark B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might have over reacted by totally calling for a break, then again, maybe that is what you really wanted. It is disrespectful to be playing a game during an argument or serious talk, and him calling you a psycho is way out of line. I think you ought to take this break and see how you feel and how he feels and if he apologizes or something. If he doesn't come crawling back I think that, plus his recent calling of the ex shows he is a dirtbag so move on and get someone who respects you!
2007-03-04 23:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by crackermelons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you are wrong, it's just the way people perceive things differently. But he's being disrespectful for calling you a psycho when he shouldn't at all. Calling an ex is something unacceptable to me if I were you. There's a possibility that he wants to be out of this relationship with you and make up with his ex. Be smart and act smart. Talk things out openly with him instead of taking a break. Solve every problem on the spot and not dragging it.
2007-03-04 23:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am confused...he thinks you're a psycho because you were ok with him calling his ex girlfriend? Men are a strange breed. Don't call him...let him do the work, he will come back and then perhaps you should have a chat about what his problem was?
2007-03-04 23:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by bundy_bee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No he needs to respect you and he shouldn't be calling his ex girlfriend and not calling you names. He should be a bit more understanding and try to keep you from getting hurt and it seems as if he really didn't care about your feelings. If I were you I would really think about it he shouldn't be treating you this way. Its almost as if he doesn't care about what you have to say do you really want to be with someone like that.
2007-03-04 23:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by sadgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just thank your lucky stars if u ever get out of this relationship. What type of a lousy boyfriend is he? You deserve someone better and more considerate than this shi*. He doesnt even treat you with respect. Id suggest try finding someone new. Good luck to you
2007-03-04 23:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, in his mind he feel he was wrong and wanted a confirmation on that, maybe he has some feelings for his ex, when he didnt get the confirmation from you, he reacted in such a juvinile way
2007-03-04 23:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by snehesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You interrupted a PlayStation game? That's grossly offensive and you really need to go back and apologise immediately. Perhaps a little oral loving is in order to make amends and he might forgive if not forget.
Don't make this mistake again.
2007-03-04 23:47:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i think you did was a good choice bc he cant just jump to conclusions bout u that are wrong. so if hes calling you a psyco then give him some space and if comes back to u tell him if he ever thinks something like that bout you he should ask you first. tell me how it goes.
2007-03-04 23:50:01 · answer #9 · answered by brownie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of slapped the **** out of him for calling you a name and disrespecting you like that and ended that relationship right then and there. Hell it ain't too late to end it now.
2007-03-04 23:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋