He has texted me all year for coffee and continually I turned him down as I was seeing someone. However we split up and I was very hurt. So I text the guy back and he was very consoling. I met him and he kissed me. He has been in contact with me almost everyday since I split up, and he has been there for me. He has said he considers me a friend. I said friends is good and I have just had 2 break-ups in 3 yrs, and I thought relationships were draining and a waste of time and energy. He still wants to meet up for fun. I know what that means as we have been together before.
I like being with him in fact I like him now. Initially I didn't as it was too close to the split, but now I like him and I would like more fun with him. I am just wondering how to continue with this?
2007-03-04 23:16:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best relationships are built on friendship and trust first and foremost...These are the two things that strengthen the foundations of a great relationship...I think you took the time out to become closer to him and he certainly took time out for you to learn to trust him...He has given you time to know he really is your best friend, the one who you can depend on and confide in...this is leaning towards you both finding your soul mates..If I were you, I would just text him back and tell him you think you are falling in love with him..as this is definitely what it sounds like...the rest will happen and will be very strong and long lasting...best of luck to both of you...
2007-03-04 23:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by ozzy chik... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have 'fun' with him then go for it. Just make sure it is safe 'fun' and that you are freinds enough to avoid hurting each other should the 'fun' turn into something more for either one of you.
In my experience it is difficult to keep 'fun' and emotions separate but it can be done.
Agree with each other if your 'fun' is mutually exclusive or not, how you will let each other know if you want to stop having 'fun' together or if you think it is likely to grow into something more.
2007-03-04 23:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best antidote to feeling miserable is a good dose of carefree sex. If you have someone who is your "fck buddy" who is available and with whom you can have safe, no ties sex with then go for it. For me this would be my ex-gf, so its great if you have someone to pick you up and make you feel special.
If you think it may be complicated, leave it and find someone else for safe "fun". If you have any bi sexual or lesbian leanings then I would recommend visiting "special parties" where it is all about the girls having fun. The men are there either to watch or they have to be ASKED to join in.
Good luck
2007-03-04 23:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be very care full not to think relationship if he says fun, don't get to emotionally involved,some people say fun and mean fun ,good buy?
even if they are there for you in bad times , that just good timing on their part and i would try staying friends a bit longer and if he disappears you haven lost much.
2007-03-04 23:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most important you feel happy then just continue whatever fun you claimed. Don't think of the future, enjoy first and let nature take it course.
2007-03-04 23:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want fun go for it but try and not get too emotionally involved, sometimes that is easier said than done though be careful
2007-03-04 23:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by Janet C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he just wants to meet for "fun" & you do too then go for it. Otherwise, he doesn't sound like relationship/bf material.
It just depends on if you are willing to risk another potential breakup on the way.
2007-03-04 23:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by Meeeee! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Laura,
Things dont just happen. they answer to an action. u should show him that u are interested if u are (the best is to admit it, eventhough it is not the easiest way). I always say it is good to talk. everything becomes easier.
2007-03-04 23:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by theashtrayisfull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woaa.. you like him. That adds complications. Don't ever proceed in a relationship where what you want from it is different to the other person. It can only end in pain.
Get alignment!
2007-03-04 23:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wonder whether u will ever get tired asking the same question over and over again. does this guy even exist? i doubt so. cos u wrote "recently", but i remember asking u the same question for weeks. get lost already
2007-03-04 23:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋