why do guys find it strange that...?

Question

i dont have a boyfriend,i have many guys i chat to and in the proccess of getting to know them but im not looking for a relationship till im ready,im a attractive,independant down to earth girl,ive been in relationships before both which were long term and abusive,in every way,it took me alot to get to this point of getting back on track and now im very weary of getting involved with anyone,,i meet guys and ill talk to them just as mates,they find it strange that i havent found a man yet as they think im a decent girl,why is it strange for a girl to want to be alone,id rather be alone then risk getting hurt again and so far ive not met anyone i can see myself with.am i strange?

Answer 1

You are right. Just wait and Mister Right will come along

Answer 2

For someone who do not know you personally and sees beauty in you instantly, the reaction will be that your situation is strange. But for someone who has good comprehension of your question, there is nothing strange about you. Being cautious to enter into a relationship after debacles from the past, is a virtue rather than a fault.

You are in fact, a natural. To rise from a fall and not wanting to fall again is natural. Intelligent. But of course this is an imperfect world with many pitfalls. You could fall again despite your resolve but the chance of doing so becomes slimmer with being cautious, questioning, and patient. You will find the right one for you, believe me, like the countless people like you. If you don't, you remain natural like the many who choose trek life single.

The thing is, try to make a difference in this world no matter how small a way, whatever you choose to be. You will never be strange. You will be different!

Answer 3

I think you are so right to have your independence back and to be strong alone. I am at a point now where I have had 2 break-ups in 3 years. The recent relationship I thought was going very well, and then bang we broke up. I'm also in the process of manding my soul, and have a guy friend who wants to have fun. I have a dilemma as I do like him, but don't want to risk getting hurt. It's not worth the pain. You will meet somone you like and at least you now have the experience not to get too emotionally involved unless it is a relationship where you know will lead to a longlasting happy one. Enjoy the flirting for now!

Answer 4

You are not strange at all!

Since what you have been through, of course it has affected how you choose the men you talk and spend your time with. And for the guys you meet who are shocked that you are not in a relationship, well, wouldnt anyone be? To meet a young, beautiful, down to earth girl and think, why in hell are they not with someone, that is normal. But just as long as they dont judge you this is ok.

Give yourself a time. The abuse which you experienced will have effected you very deeply I am sure. And well done for getting through it all, you are very brave. But try not to be afraid. Mix with the right people, and enjoy the company.

Good luck!

Answer 5

You are not strange you have been hurt and you are very wary of getting into another serious relationship.

Only you will know when you are ready, but not all men are the same, don't judge them on all your past experiences. Go on a few dates, have a few laughs, don't you deserve that?

You will meet that special someone and your barriers will come down, don't be alone just because of the idiots in your previous relationships.

Good luck x

Answer 6

first you hit the nail on the head.you have been hurt so much that your sub conscious is kicking in forget what they think you ll be OK.when GOD has let you heal enough some lucky guy is going to have his world rocked bye the best woman in the world!!!!!!!!!because only a woman can make these kind of choices.sex is good but until you can be honest with your feelings to someone and tell them what you expect out of the relationship and him to be honest about his these are the bonds true love is based on. no you are just fine just not where i can talk so this will have to do. have a beautiful day. if you want I'm not hard to findbut you can not be selfish and completly get out of the world that is cheating you out of the enjoyment of being loved and someone to share life with. but you don't have to be in a hurry.all good things come to those who wait. heard that somewhere !!!!!!!!!!lol lol lol smile god loves us

Answer 7

No you are not strange, just finding your feet but do not leave it too long though,we can only learn from past hurts and grow stronger from them, don't put everyone you meet in a box and just accept them for what they are that way you can develop some really good friendships and maybe even some romance

Answer 8

Nothing wrong with what your saying at all.

But maybe you shouldn't worry to much about getting hurt, not all are b******'s. I found a nice guy when I wasn't looking for one. Had a really nasty break up with my ex and ended up calling my wedding off three Weeks before the actual date.

Happy hunting when your ready x

Answer 9

Hell no, that's not strange. Every man I've ever been in contact with has hurt me in some way, so it makes me sick to think about a relationship. It's always better to be alone than to settle for somebody who is going to hurt you.

Answer 10

I don't think your strange at all. I am at that stage in my life too. Eventually you just think enough is enough. You will find someone eventually but first you need to find yourself and make yourself happy. When you are down I think you give off the wrong signs. Good luck to you girl. Hope you find what your looking for when you're ready.

Answer 11

No, you're not strange. You are quite right to be cautious after being in abusive relationships in the past. Take your time, you will know when you are ready to date again.