I recently became engaged. And i want to of course have sex with my soon to be husband. But one thing is bothering me i am a virgin and he is not. So in a way i dont want to dissapoint him.
Any thoughts on the matter???
Any feedback would be amazing! thanks
2007-03-04 21:41:36 · 22 answers · asked by clockwork 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He loves you obviously, if he's going to marry you. If you are insecure with being a virgin...then don't be. Your soon-to-be husband is probably proud of you that you are a virgin. If you are worried about your sexual performance on "that night", then you shouldn't be. He is aware that you are a virgin, and he will be patient and gentle with you. If you are worried about HIM not being a virgin, then you just might want a quick doctor's visit with him to make sure everything is ok on his end. He should understand that this is an age with STD's (sexual transmitted diseases) and you want to reassure yourself that he does not carry anything that he may be unaware of. I know that's a touchy subject to most people, and no one likes to bring it up to their partner, but it's not that you don't trust HIM, you might not trust, or know the history of anyone he's had sex with in the past. Best to just get that out of the way, and bring you (and your future husband) some peace of mind.
2007-03-04 21:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is marrying you for a reason other than what your sex life consists of, obviously. It's just first time pressures hitting you. You'll have to do it one day. Don't do it though unless you really want to. I'm sure he knows you are a virgin so I'm also sure he's not expecting some amazing sex act from you. Don't pressure yourself on the subject. You will be fine. Since he is wanting to marry you then that means he loves you for who you are and not what you can do in the bedroom which will make it all the better for the both of you and mean so much more. It won't be disappointing for him to have sex with his wife.
2007-03-05 05:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by BJTD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean, I would feel the same way too. One of the main reasons I didn't want to give up my virginity to just anyone, was because if I am giving something so special and intimate to a bunch of people, what will I have to give my wife? Luckily, i've met a fantastic girl who felt the same way and we gave up our virginities to each other. We are planning to get married in a few years when we are ready.
You might feel that you are just another girl or something (intimately), but he really must like you to stick with you all the way up to marriage.
2007-03-05 05:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Joshu@ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel because for some reason i always end up with older guys who arent virgins and i am a virgin so im always concerned my inexperience will upset him but dont be he loves you and wants to be with you nothing else matters in time you wil learn and its gonna happen sooner or later, dont let it bother you im sure it doesnt bother him
2007-03-05 05:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by lily paige 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go read some sex books in the bookstore. I found my best positions in "Anne Hooper Teaches Sexual Technique" by Dorling Kindersley. I also found the visual Kama Sutra books interesting. Or I saw at Rite Aid Pharmacy a board game called "Kama Sutra: The Adventure."
Congratulations !! You are a lucky woman to have a man experienced in sex.
G-d Bless.
2007-03-05 05:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by Phillip 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would he be disappointed that you're a virgin? other guys i know would be disappointed if their wife is not. Anyway, you could just tell him so he wouldn't expect too much from you and then you read up on sex techniques from Cosmopolitan or Redbook, give him a "surprise"
2007-03-05 05:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by Seryus! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, this man loves you. You will not be a disappointment to him. Just take things slow when you both decide to actually make love. You will learn with each othe what you both like and desire. There is no way he is going to be disatisfied with a woman who was willing to wait for one man.
2007-03-05 05:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to disappoint him, especially if he knows that you are a virgin. He probably respects you for waiting and is looking forward to teaching you and being your one and only. Don't worry, it wont take long and you'll have it figured out.
2007-03-05 05:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just take things slow he probably knows you're a virgin, congrats for waiting you set a good example for all the girls out there, watch some porn films to get some pointers and then do things slow
2007-03-05 05:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by Butter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't be dissapointed, a virgin is every males fantasy.
2007-03-05 05:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋