I am upset, can you cheer me up?

Question

I used to be a very very happy girl. So being upset is not in my dictionary. But lately, life has given me all the terrible I could possibly afford. I don't want to get depressed, I want to fight. But right now, I feel very very upset. Can you say something to cheer me up?

Oh, and do you want to know about my problems? HAHA be my guest:
1- I am 6 months pregnant
2- I don't have a house, I live with my husband in my brother and his wife's house.
3- I am not working due to pregnancy problems, my husband can't seem to find a job = we have no money, my brother pays for us = so I lost my confidence and independance.
4- Me and my husband have communication problems, we don't seem to be able to talk well, he laughs at our problems. So no sitting and resolving the problems.
5- Our sex life is horrible, we haven't had sex for the past 3 months.
6- I don't get on well with my brother's wife, on the outside, everything wonderful, but inside I feel very inferior.
7- I don't go out at all

Answer 1

Well lets see many years ago in a land far far away, lived a 18 year old young girl, pregnant and not married, then she got married but her husband suddenly lost his job. He at the time was immature and didnt really know how to be the best he can be at the time. So they did have problems communicating. They also lived in the home of her mother. It was rather depressing. Well the husband finally got work, the wife gave birth to the most beautiful daughter. The couple found an apartment of their own. The couple through alot of hard work learned to communicate and be mature. The little girl grew up and now is married and has had the most beautiful little daughter of her own. Now that young woman who was so depressed so many years ago, is happy, is still married and have grown with that man and shared the happy and sad times, and that young woman is an older happier woman with family and things around her that make her happy. So life is a ferris wheel when you are at the bottom you never feel you will get to the top, when you are at the top you pray you stay there its so wonderful at the top, but for you to fully appreciate the top you sometimes have to go hit the bottom. This is life you will conquer and find happiness and peace no matter what. :-)

Answer 2

Start small and one thing at a time; first thing first ur pregnant; so that makes u responsible for the two of u. So take care of ur physical and mental health. Keep tabs on ur thought processes; too much negative thinking will hurt u and as per medical research i think it affects the baby too. Ur kid could be a unending source of joy for u...so u have something to look forward to.

Get out of the house more often, some exercise would be healthy and besides it could take ur mind of the domestic tensions. It could also help u think of new ideas and meet new people

As far as ur brother's wife is concerned; inferiority is all in the mind... but still grin and bear it !! ur not in a position to tom-tom ur superiority either, remember.

Lastly, ; as much as i hate saying this to a six month pregnant lady - start thinking of finding a job soon because ur husband is unreliable, u would soon be having a new member in ur family
and u never know when ur existing support system might collapse. Moreover it is intrinsically wrong to depend on someone
else for ur needs especially when ur an adult with kid on the way (sorry...if am adding to ur woes but u better wake up and smell the coffee else one of these days..the dam is gonna break).

Answer 3

Well, you have a child on the way. Even though it doesn't seem as though you are in the best of circumstances at the moment, having a child is a beautiful thing.

I would definitely seek some type of counseling. I understand that not having a job makes paying for counseling very difficult. Try a church for counseling. Preachers/pastors are always a good option and I have never seen one to charge for counseling. Don't know anything about your 'faith', but try and attend that church. That would be a good start for 1) getting out of the house and 2) maybe getting 'dressed up' will give you some confidence. It's a thought...

Answer 4

Im sorry to hear that.. *HUGS* Ok start by taking a Day out just for you.. Ok how about tomorow. What do you want to do with a day that is totally yours?

Go for a coffee, a walk on the beach.. sometthing that brings you joy. switch off all the problems all these things that you just mentioned dont exist on your day to yourself. phone a friend if you like and hang out with them.
Do something each day that brings you joy. just think about what those things are. even if its 30 minutes to watch your favourite tv show. do that every day.

your husband needs to listen to you and understand why you feel this way. Counceling helps.. then prioritise these issues and break them down into small peices and work your way through them.

You deserve the best in life. Hear this..... you deserve the best in life!!

I really hope that this has helped.

things will get better.

Answer 5

well, you certainly do have a lot on your plate.
and i feel for you.

look at the bright side.
baby in a few months.
lovin that precious child.
after he/she is born you can get assisted living until your husband gets back on his feet, or you find employment.
after the baby is born, you will take some time for you, and if you maintain a exercise regimen, you can have you body back. (yay for you)
think about the good sex you will have with your hubby then.


i am sure that you have anger, resentment and all that going on right now.
but like everyone else says, it too shall pass, and things will get better.

wait i gotta go get your cheer up, BRB.....


here it is.... hope it helps..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UjXi6X-moxE

Answer 6

You are a brave girl, you need some morale support to turn the clock. If you can make your husband determine that he had to work for welfare of your coming child. If a persons determines that he had to work/earn money there is nothing that can stop him. Tell him to take up any job that comes on his way, he will spoil his own as well as your married life if he waits for selecting job of his choice.
After delivery you too can make some alternate way of looking after of your child and pick up job.
You seems to be educated, there are thousands of jobs at call center, malls and Banks. Even Aviation sector is opened up now.
Dont get panicked, kill your ego for time being(max 6 months)
Still if your husband fails to get up, its better to tell him bye bye.
The moment you are able to stand up on your own feets, it will be the befitting reply to your sister inlaw. Its the old proverb that time changes every body, wait for your day , God bless you.
But you make sure that your hubby move out and grasps any job that comes on his way. Force him to struggle out. If he does'nt pl Kick him out and say good bye. For your better future.....

Answer 7

I felt deep sad to know ur story. Its really very hard situation for u. Wait until born ur new child then both of u can discussed ab ur prob. I wish u will be happy in the future life. I'm sured ab it because sunshine hidden beyong the cloud.

Answer 8

Things always have a way of working out .Your husband needs to get going on a job search no matter what he can find .You should try not to dwell on your problems and take care of yourself and baby

Answer 9

just remember that things will always get better

i suffered from depression on and off for about 5 years
it was horrible, (i know what its like to be depressed believe me!)


every moring, when you wake up, take a deep breath and smile and say

I am beautiful, i am strong and I CAN DO THIS!

you go girl! you can do it!

i wish you all the best!
:-)

Answer 10

some day i was in love with some person that was for 7 years ago . this last monday i saw him with his weif ,in that moment i thought that the life was end but my mother said that this is the life and it had not any mean without pain