My husband is so cocky and thinks he knows it all, he just recently started going to the same online college as me and hes been trying to tell me how to do things, like hes been telling me when I need to do my homework and how hes going to laugh or whatever when I get a bad grade. I have been going to college since 04 and just recently decided to go online to finish my degree and he has never gone to college he just started and to tell you the truth is going to have a rude awakening when he starts doing some more strenuous assignments, he has poor grammar and poor typing skills and he asks me for help but when I give it to him he gets angry....should i just back off and not offer help unless he asks and also decides that hes going to let me help and not get angry.......and should I just ignore his ********* about my school work and just show him that I know what im doing?
2007-03-04 20:52:58 · 11 answers · asked by renee_0102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just stick to your school work and do your best. Don't let him degrade you about it either. Don't take anything he says to you to heart, all it will do is bring you down about yourself and your grades could fall because of it. It sounds to me like he may be jealous of you about something and doesn't know how to handle it. Is he like this about other things? If he asks for help, give it to him but when he gets angry then stop and tell him that he shouldn't have asked you for help if he wasn't going to appreciate your input and the next time it happens he will be on his own so don't even bother asking until he can respect you. Don't make it a competition all that will do is escalate the hostility which can lead to other problems. Just do your work. When he tries to tell you how to do things and when, tell him that you have been doing it for almost three years now and you are an adult and you can handle your school yourself, you don't need his help. Stand up for yourself because if he figures out he can get by with this then he will try with other things, if he doesn't do it already. It seems odd to me that he would all of a sudden start acting like this unless he feels threatened by you possibly doing better than him. My husband and I are also taking online classes and we are nothing but positive about each others accomplishments and help each other when need be. You deserve that too!
2007-03-04 21:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by BJTD 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some men, as some women are very competitive. Do your own work, and let him do his. If he asks for help, just advise him, but do not do his work!! He will never learn that way.
If he does better than you in some classes, so what. We all have our own talents. Some people are better in the math department, for instance. I am more the creative, artistic type.
If he gets cocky, just ignore it. His ego is being fed by how much he can irritate you. The more you let him, the worse it will get.
2007-03-05 05:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ignore the *********. instead try to communicate with him. do your schoolwork for you, why do you need to show him you know what you're doing? do things for yourself not to impress someone. if he doesn't respect you and you feel like you can't communicate then why in the world are you in a relationship with him? and if he does respect you then you know he respects you so you shouldn't need to prove anything to him.
he asks for help but gets angry when you give him help. well, again that needs to be talked about. ask why he's angry? not in an accusatory way but be genuine and really try to understand why he's angry and then explain where you are coming from.
it seems the two of you are in some ridiculous competition of trying to show the other up. well, stop it. talk it out.
2007-03-05 05:00:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kos Kesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is somewhat not taking your help. Then don't hit. You need to talk to him and tell him that you deserve the same support like your giving him. Your husband laughing if you get a bad grade. Its really not supportive. If it doesn't work out then you both should agree , his studies are his studies and your and yours. Don't into each other school work. PS. Most guys are cocky, thats what we like about them sometimes.
2007-03-05 05:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by JENNIFER C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him fail. Then leave him and explain to him that the reason is that you have standards and choose not to associate with the mentally challenged. Also, don't forget to tell him that he's lousy in bed too.
2007-03-05 04:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Knowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jus ignore him and show him that u know exactly what u are doing and dont need any of his help. Tell him to help himself.
2007-03-05 04:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by saddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a dumb a** isn't he.
Kick him to the curb and find yourself a real man because he isn't. A real man would never tell his wife what to do or make fun of her. You can do better then that redneck, toothless dumba**
2007-03-05 04:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by dirtmojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's quite scared and has picked a lousy way to cope with it.
2007-03-05 04:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It goes both ways.
2007-03-05 04:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by late4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show the cocky prick that you know it all baby
2007-03-05 04:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by defragmentedbrain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋