Im still young,19 but getting married after my 21 b-day. now i wanna have a baby real bad and the probleme is my parents they would not like the idea and i work for a worthless saliry but my bf get almost enough (we live with my parents). my friend told me when the baby comes so does the money and i mean it worked for her since she was still in school, now she has an apparment and always money to pay the rent and for the baby- not always for fun. i know i might not be thinking clearly but to be a mom is all i want and i know i'll be a great mommy. advice plz
2007-03-04 20:40:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Its great that you are getting married in a few years but you have to be realistic. Does your bf want a baby?? Are you sure that you don't want to enjoy life a bit more?? Wanting a baby at a young age is normal but not always the best idea because although you feel like you are ready physically, you might not be ready mentally. Taking care of a baby is the biggest responsibility. 2am wake ups, no sleep, and constant 24 hours a day baby watch. You two live with your parents, would it be fair for them to alter their lives to step in when you can't get the job done? You should be stable first, your own place, a stable job, and a strong solid relationship. A baby changes everything, even your relationship with your partner. Just think it through. I'm happy that your friend is milking the system for all its worth with everyone's tax money!!! That's complete nonsense!!! Enjoy being married first then decide on the baby thing. Good luck.
2007-03-04 23:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by CeeCee19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to get a job that will allow you to support a child.
Then you need to move out of your parents house into your own place. Then, if you can pay the bills and have money left over to support a baby then you can start planning for it. Why would you wait until you're 21 to get married, but have a baby at 19? Shouldn't it be the other way around? Finally, the only way money will come to you once a baby is born is through government assistance. If you are looking for a handout you need to reconsider your motives for having a child. You need to support it, not everyone else. Please get your priorities straight before you have a baby. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I believe it is what you need to hear. You'll be a good mom someday, just wait until you are financially ready. Good luck.
2007-03-04 21:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a guy, I'm not sorry to say, I have not felt the paternal twang, but i do know that if i ever do have a child it will be at a time and place i can take care of myself at least. A.K.A. Living in MY HOUSE. eating MY FOOD. paying MY BILLS. Economically i would rather all people that believe they want a baby to get money would have children taken from them. I can think of many military uses for this. Then MAYBE i won't think that my tax dollars went to someone who is going to give an awful life to a Being that deserves the best and is force fed the worst just so that mommy and daddy can feel complete. For your Question, NO DO NOT HAVE A BABY ANY TIME SOON. GO TO COLLEGE FIRST, GET A GOOD JOB, AND BECOME A PRODUCTIVE MEMBER OF SOCIETY. INSTEAD OF MOOCHING OFF THE PUBLIC FOR YOUR DELUSIONS OF GRANDEUR. while were at it sterilize your Friend the baby factory...
2007-03-04 20:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by voidlesshope 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your potential baby deserves the best right?
So...Start by finishing your education. Find a good job maybe even a career. Secure a safe place to live. Get married. Have some fun. Start thinking about having a baby...
In that order.
2007-03-04 23:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a baby doesn't mean that you'll get money. so don't think that.
it's true that there is no perfect time to have a baby. i wanted a baby for a long time before i was married. luckily we waited until after we were married to have that baby. i had her shortly before my 21st bday.
don't have a baby yet. you're only 19. there are many things you want/need to do right now besides be a mom. wait until you are married, at least. please.
good luck.
2007-03-04 20:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by lkjgfyfukh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont waste ur beauty for a man as soon a man see a kid he link in his mind new responsibility has come in the hse and immediately most of them they start hanging out with other girls be careful money is not everything.
2007-03-04 22:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by titi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell yourself this, you are young and once your a mother you're a mother for life! dont rush things, get yourself sorted financially and mentally, a baby is hard work but worth the wait. Get married and enjoy your husband first. Babysit for friends to satisfy your mothering instincts. isn't it worth waiting and celebrating your pregnancy instead of upsetting your family? good luck xxx
2007-03-04 20:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by louise 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just wait until you and your boyfriend is married and you can afford a place of your own...
."..my friend told me when the baby comes so does the money "
your friend has this wrong..when the baby comes the money is gone..unless she is riding off the system...which isn't good....
2007-03-04 20:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, A baby IS NOT a cash cow. Money DOES NOT come with children.
Look around you, people are struggling to feed their families.
And you should wait, you have the rest of your life ahead of you to make babies. :)
2007-03-04 20:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋