i have this crush on my cousin.she's 16 and i feel that it's wrong but i just can't help it.........is it wrong and what should i do
2007-03-04 20:20:20 · 12 answers · asked by K the lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
trust me, you don't have a crush on her. let me tell you from personal experience.
you just think that she is beautiful, which is fine. nothing is wrong with telling someone they are beautiful
and you are just happy to be around her and see her. its not like you see her often or live with her. so you are just happy to see her. and you just like her feminism. don't take this the wrong way. it can ruin your family.
i've had the same situation but just worked it out and found out that that is what i was really feeling.
2007-03-04 20:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by John Becker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Maybe you are seeing something in her cause you feel really comfortable around her cause she is your cousin and you are attracted to that. Which makes you believe you have a crush on her. You want somthing and you think you see it in her. But, it isn't her. Go look around some more outside the family and you will find what you want. Just remember if you do try somthing and she isn't feeling it then you might be the cause of splitting up family members cause of the uncomfortable feelings they will have. Sorry if you think what I said was rude. I wasn't trying to be just honest.
2007-03-04 20:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by confusedinhawaii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your crush a secret, and enjoy your special friendship with your cousin. Believe me, no good will come of taking this further, and both your families will be against it, for many good reasons. Society in general frowns upon cousins intermarrying, mainly for genetic reasons; your children would be more likely to carry any genetic defect from within your families. It's much simpler and safer to leave it as just a crush, and keep yourself busy with other activities.
2007-03-04 20:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first element is first, you opt for to sit down down w/your husband and tell him of the position is he incorrect at as far as your thoughts and how this makes you very uncomfortable. If he's that open with displaying affection to a pal, what's to assert that he doesn't tutor this to different women those that you do not even understand. examine into this; a lot of people say God places issues in the front people for a reason, this sounds like he's attempting to reveal you something earlier the priority receives worse. imagine to your self, if he does this along with your cousin, what contained in the international does he do with different ideal women those that you nor he's conscious of!!!
2016-11-27 22:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its absolutely fine to hav crush on ur cousin..i mean crushes are normal..n there's no need to feel that u r doing anything wrong!!!the basic thing is u r a guy n she's a girl...n one does have crushes on the other sex.so if u actually feel for her go ahead ask her out..n tell her what u exactly feel for her..but be aware that she has a broad outlook n will accept ur feelings for her..best of luck
2007-03-04 20:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by prachi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing because as you grow up, it will pass. There is a term for what you think you want. It is called incest. It is not "cool". It is wrong. You said yourself it is just a "crush". Let it alone and do absolutely nothing.
2007-03-04 20:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait for 1-2 years before taking any further step....till then you just enjoy your friendship and meanwhile just try to find out her feeling for you..I think she may also fall for you.
2007-03-04 20:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by Shilpa B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A guy cant help it if he finds a girl atractive but dont go any further then that man.
2007-03-04 20:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by (A)+(E) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her a break da she isn't the one for you there plenty of fish in the water for you
(You may cuddle her sometimes and kiss but that's the most you must do)
2007-03-04 20:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by quilm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong
A) its not your fault your related
B)your not even that related its not like its your brother
C)it can work out a freind of mine had a 10year relationship and a child with her cousin and their still really close
GO FOR IT COS YOU'LL NEVER NO TILL YOU TRY!!!
2007-03-04 20:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by Lill lost dark angel 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋