Here is a text message i recieved off my girlfriend, we have only been together 2 months.
Sori to txt u now but i need to say sum fing to u and if i dont say it now i wont say it at all i dont want to force anythin on u but i cant wait i want to ave a baby and im sori if ive shocked u or if im scarin u but i just needed to tell u and im sori and i love u i really do
2007-03-04 20:20:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is 19 and I am 23
2007-03-04 20:25:32 · update #1
She had an abortion when she was 14 could this be the reason she wants a baby, is it feelings of guilt.
2007-03-04 20:57:40 · update #2
after 2 months!
RUN, RUN AWAY!
2007-03-04 20:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ni 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 months to soon to be talking babies, hell you hardly even know each other! She sounds a little mixed up and at 19 she is a little to young to be thinking about babies. You have to choices her catch the next bus out of there, or Talk with her, take things slow and may be in a year or so see what happens. You also need to make sure if you continue seeing her that us use protection, just in case! You dont want to end up in 9 months with a life time commitment! Having a baby isnt a quick desion to make requires a hell of a lot of thought planning and you know your life will never be the same again, is she fully aware of all this?
GOOD LUCK in what ever you choose to do.
2007-03-04 22:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear the girl sounds desperate to me and possibly she loves you so much she wants to pin you down . If she loves you as much as she says why couldn`t she talk to you about this rather than texting it , that worries me . If you can see yourself in a long relationship with her then tell her you love her but do not want to be a daddy for now , you both have plenty of time for kids ..
Good Luck x
P.S Don`t let her give you an ultimatum , if she does then i think you should re-assess the relationship ..
2007-03-04 20:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what do you want?
I think after 2 months you should still be concentrating on just the 2 of you.Also a baby needs stability.
If you really like this girl but think its too soon then tell her.But if you,re not really bothered I,d make a pretty sharp exit and very quickly!!!
2007-03-04 21:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lorraine D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that's is quite scary. 2 months together is way to soon to have a baby 2gether. Ive got two kids and it can put a great strain on a relationship. plus if you are not ready for kids you will just end up resenting her 4 pushing u in to it. if u do not want them yet you are gunna have to tell her. and to b honest i don't think i know any one who would txt there boyfriend of 2 months and say any think like that. is way to soon!!
2007-03-04 20:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm u need to tell her straight she'll have to wait ive been with my bloke 3 yrs and i want kids but not yet ....jezz 2 months is she crazy u need money a home and a stable relationship sorry if u no u love her but 2 months isnt long enough to get to no sumone well.....just talk to her about it and say ur not ready just yet if she cant understand she's an idiot u cant bring a little one into a relationship u dont no will last good luck x
2007-03-04 20:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont care what happened when she was 14 - shes come on a bit too strong there - and to tell you in a TEXT!!!! I might distance myself from her if I were in your shoes - after 2 months its WAY to early to be thinking about something like that - my worry would be that she'll purposely get pregnant - and then you're rightly screwed if you dont want a baby!!! Think long and hard about this one hun! xx
2007-03-04 22:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple question is Do you want a baby? I f you do and you love her then great!
If you dont and you know you dont for a while then walk away!
She may try and trap you by not taking her pill etc... Be careful!!
Maybe she is pregnant and is testing the water to see how you react!
Let us know what happens
2007-03-08 20:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by kirsty m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you need to talk to her about why not wait and what is going on! and you need to use condoms if you don't want to be a father - but you should be able to trust her, so you guys must talk and sort this out! How old are you both? I am guessing very young. Not good, disaterous really.
2007-03-04 20:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
making a decision to have a baby needs to be spoken about verbally, and you both wanting it, it needs to be discussed properly. its because she loves you, but youre both still quite young, and its not a decision that should be made lightly, especially as i think you may be right, she may have gullt feelings still about her abortion and this is a way of putting things right for her, i think also this could be based on insecurities for her, good luck
2007-03-04 21:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, RUN FOR COVER IN THOSE WELSH HILLS, thats the best thing, dont be trapped into something you dont want, you're both young yet
2007-03-04 20:38:35 · answer #11 · answered by Piggy56 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋