My husband doesn't know how to love and to be loved. Please suggest me how to incultcate good nature within him.
2007-03-04 20:15:56 · 9 answers · asked by sanjukta 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If your desire to improve the husband's behavior is sincere, then:
1. Every day, give him 3 compliments! Find SOMETHING to sincerely give him a praise / pat on his back.
2. Disregard his short-temper, impatience, or intolerance, and keep giving him positive strokes.
3. Give him a kiss when he leaves home, and on return every evening.
Do this every day, without feeling resentful, for 30 days. See the remarkable change in him.
4. share your new feelings, your impression of your new husband, and your happiness with others around you / on this forum!
2007-03-04 20:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by thegentle Indian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most probably he wasn't loved as a child, and therefore finds it difficult to love. He is emotionally empty, and cannot share what he does not have.
The only suggestion to you is, and it will take a couple of years. Give him love constantly, let him know how great he is, and how much he means to you. In time, he will have the love from you, in him to share with you.
If a person has no money, he has nothing to share. His pockets are empty. Your husband is emotionally empty at this point. So try what I suggested. Fill up his emotionally empty heart.
2007-03-04 20:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could answer that, I'd still be married. Some people love themselves so much that they simply cannot focus on others needs and wants. Even a wife's needs and desires.
I sincerely hope your husband isn't one of those people. I suggest counseling. Immediately. And, choose one that is reputable and licensed.
I hope everything goes well for you.
2007-03-04 20:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop complaints about your husband, there is no way you can change anybodys behaviour on this planet.only thing is that u can do is make improvement in ur self,or move out of the situation at once.do u think that we have a computer programme that we can put into him.he will be the same.change the way you look at him.
2007-03-05 02:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by toploser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him right out how do you feel. And ask him why he is this way?? You may find some hidden answers. Good luck to you hope you be happy. God bless you.
2007-03-05 22:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by gowry k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him unconditionally...he will know someday..may be he has some proffesional tension...be with him....dont force him to love u the way u want..
Good luck
2007-03-04 20:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not blame him when he makes mistakes
take care of his parents and his siblings
be patient
let him know how special u are and how much u love him by your activities..
one day he would know...
u knw we never realise the value of one thing until we lose that.... he should understand that...
hope it works
regards
2007-03-08 18:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sky lark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs professional help, not Y!A.
2007-03-04 20:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are a herro
2007-03-04 20:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋