i was seeing a guy and he lost his job and moved 2 hours from me and when he lost his job he said he wanted to find one near me and live with me and be with me, but its been a few months and he hasnt even looked for work , doesnt call me anymore and basically its an effort for him to even come and see me, he hasnt invited me to meet his family and never wanted to meet my family. so today i took all his stuff he has at my house and i dropped it off at his sisters. i bascially made the decision not to see him anymore cause it was making me unhappy, was i to hard , should i given it more time????
2007-03-04 19:57:33 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you absolutely did the right thing.
when things are not going so well for someone, that does not change the way they feel about someone they love. it makes them feel bad themselves but that's one of the times when a loving relationship is what keeps them going.
he's clearly "not that into you" and you gave him plenty of time.
what you did was difficult perhaps, some might think it's harsh but it's not, it's the right thing to do.
you should check out the book (excerpt at the link below): he's just not that into you. great source of common sense information about relationships.
bravo for you. you clearly respect yourself! there should be more like you.
2007-03-04 20:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by that's the truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! You did the right thing. It may be hard, but no girl or guy deserves that. If a guy is really into you he'll call you and take you out more often. Move on. This guy obviously wasn't good enough and this only means there is someone better out there for you. Concentrate on YOU and eventually you'll meet someone wonderful. A friend once told me that good things come to those who wait.
2007-03-05 04:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by beachlvr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As harsh as it sounds, there are only two types of relationships... happy and unhappy. Now granted in some cases where people who have history fight, it can be resolved. But this isn't one of those cases, you were unhappy and made a decision. From what it sounds like it wasn't that difficult of one. So yea, I think you did. You should feel validated.
2007-03-05 04:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by Waddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel you ought to have given him a little more time.The guy is obviously going through a low phase and a little ( or too much) caring couldn't have hurt. Do you miss him? If you do , dont let him go ( its really difficult to find true love), if you dont then forget your past and look around for a guy with a decent job.
2007-03-05 04:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah you did the right thing...you need to move on. Dont marry the guy you can live with marry the guy you can live with out. Seriously he wasnt making you a priority so why be wtih him. Better to be happy single the unhappy in a relationship.
2007-03-05 04:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you've given it enough time, you have done everything you could, you say he doesnt call and coming over is an effort, you deserve so much better. You have tried, and given him more understanding than he deserved or most people would give him, i definately think you have done the right thing, good for you!!
2007-03-05 04:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. It will either get him out of your hair for good, or he will wise up and find work and a place all of a sudden (love it when that happens). Either way, it definitely wasn't too hard--he needs to be at least mildly responsible for himself and his stuff, and he never will be if he can get away with it.
2007-03-05 04:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Laurel W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's lost the plot. Time for you to move on. If he gets his shi t together in the future then you may reconsider, but really, if he loses it every time something bad happens, he's not what you'd call a good prospect.
2007-03-05 04:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course youve done the right thing. Thats a sign of guys lack of commitment and interests in you. If he really likes you, he would always be there for you and must be true to his words at all times.
2007-03-05 04:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, he basically left you hanging and that isn't right. Especially if he isn't looking for work. Good for you to have taken that step before you really got hurt. It doesn't seem like he is being honest. Good Luck to you.
2007-03-05 04:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋