I have twins that will be 5 soon. The girl twin refuses to talk. The boy twin does all the talking for her. When we try to make her talk she shuts down. We try to praise her when she speeks. We would tell her she has a pretty voice, and she should use it more often she shuts down. Her twin will not stop talking for her either.
2007-03-04 19:54:59 · 12 answers · asked by spispiza 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
lol this if funny to me because my husband is a twin and his sister did all his talking for years.
he did not mind as his family really did favor his sister so he got more treats and things if she asked for it.
however she may not want praise, my friends son is a boy genius and his school teachers thought he was dumb because he would not answer any question or talk in class.
all he wanted was not to be noticed or have to much attention in his direction, once they figured this out he does much better in school, all his teachers know they nod when he does something right and move on.
so my advice is if she is not changing with praise try something else.
2007-03-11 06:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by Blessed Rain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to your son and let him know that when you ask a question for her that you want to hear her answer. Making a big deal of her speaking or not speaking may be a problem for her, try to act as though it is perfectly normal when she speaks. She could just be trying to get attention. Spend some time with just her and engage her in conversation that she is apt to respond to. "Isn't barbies dress pretty?" "Do you like french fries or onion rings?" "Wow did you see that monkey at the zoo, wasn't he silly?". She may just be upset that she is being treated like a twin or it may just be a phase she is going through. But do try to seperate them to do special things together, one parent take the girl the other the boy and do something special, next time do the opposite parent/child. Then the kids will want to tell each other what mom or dad did with them. Good luck
2007-03-04 20:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by MOMMY585 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to your twin boy that he should let her sister do some talking.
Maybe once in awhile (when you alone with her)you can ask your twin girl some questions so that she can reply.
Continue to praise her and try to get some topics going that interest her. Maybe she will feel more comfortable talking to close relatives / parents.
2007-03-04 20:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by eunice_sng71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one. I would suggest first visiting a doctor to rule out any physical/mental issues. There can possibly be a medical explaination. Once that is ruled out, try pulling the boy aside and gently explaining in simple terms that he needs to let his sister speak for herself. (if not adressed young, its going to be worse when she gets older).
Then pull your daughter aside, and try spending a little extra time with her. She may open up to you as to why she refuses to talk. Be careful in how you try to "make" her talk. If this doesn't work, explain to her that you will not speak to her through her brother any more, and ignore him when he speaks for her. This may take some time, but give it a try. Most of all though, you want to be patient and loving towards both children. I believe sometimes with twins, they lose their individual identity. Continue encouraging her to talk, but try not to make her feel uncomfortable. Do this only when you are alone with her. She may just be shy. Try doing seperate things with your children, if you aren't already. Its important for both children to establish their own sense of self. I hope this helps! If all else fails, try seeking therapy for the child. Best of luck!
2007-03-04 20:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by reauxmarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry, i have twins and when they were younger one always did all the talking and the other one was borderline mute. then they switched. the quiet one was suddenly blabber mouth and the former blabbermouth was quiet. i also had twin brother and sister in law and their mom said the same thing. they will trade rolls back and forth over the years. now my twins neither one shut up, i actually have to yell "stop!! one at a time i cant understand you both at the same time!"
2007-03-04 21:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by rachael 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about separating them for 10-15 minutes and spend some "story time" with them and ask them to find something on a page "do you see a monkey on the page?" when the point it out ask what noise does a monkey make.... this may help her come out of her shell and not to be over-powered by her brother and it will give some great one on one time..also it would not hurt to have them evalauted by easter seals (they do speech also)
2007-03-09 16:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by *G* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol sounds real familiar. My sister and brother twins. but with them it was my sister who would do all the talking.
Remedy My mom wouldn't do any thing until he asked for it himself she would say if Johny wants a drink he needs to ask for it himself.
It didn't take long before he was blabbing away.
2007-03-09 18:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her opportunities to not be with her twin brother, he is overshadowing her and she has no need to speak because he does it for her, maybe you can set up some play dates or classes for her without her twin. Take herto the park without her twin.
2007-03-06 18:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to their pediatrician. Maybe think about getting a referral to a speech therapist for her. Not only can they help with development of speech but my daughter really blossomed after going to speech therapy - her confidence soared and she wasn't bashful about talking any more! Just an idea... Good luck!
2007-03-09 21:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the boy is doing too much talking which is not giving the oppurtunity to do the talking so just try to explain him that she also needs to talk..
2007-03-04 20:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by Shilpa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋