I normally don't meet many girls that slip through my brick wall. Most of the time I find numerous reasons to justify not letting myself get too involved. However I happen to run into a girl I like quite a bit. It came out of no where, at first I never would have seen her as someone would have even pondered dating (I work with her, she isn't my typical "type", etc).
Once I got to know her a little bit, I had some unexpected feelings and even acted on them some what. The more I talked with her, the more I wanted to get to know her. Everything seemed to be going well until I over analyzed things as I usually do and then sent off an email in haste. From there things went from not really communicating to communicating again, and I am all kinds of torn right now. I love talking to her and I love getting to know her better. I keep feeling like we can end up hooking up again, but is this wrong? I can't know how she is feeling, which drives me crazy. What do you think I should do?
2007-03-04 19:47:16 · 13 answers · asked by ppodjames 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off are you a virgo? Why do you have such a high brick wall to begin with. Look who you are fighting against "yourself". If you like this female and she is responding to your feelings that you have some what acted upon then ask her out. She obviously has some attraction to you or after the hasty e-mail she would have had nothing more to do with you. If you are so gaurded all the time how are you ever gonna find love? That is what you ultimatly want in life correct? No one is perfect but you have to be willing to let there flaws slide by because they let yours. Let her know you enjoy her company and would like to get to know her better. She does not know what you are thinking and how you are feeling until you tell her, and maybe with you opening up a bit and calling off the guards she will open up right back atcha. How can having feelings for someone be wrong, unless she is spoken for? Let it flow dear and have fun with it.
2007-03-04 20:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Rigssy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't freak out. no one knows exactly what the other person or people around them is/are thinking. just maybe try some different stuff. since you work with her, see if maybe she wants to grab a bite for lunch or something. make it seem casual. if you like her, you'll mess it all up, not intentionally, but that's what always ends up happening. just be yourself. if she likes you, she'll go along with everything. then sometime when you feel like you know her more, and that you have a good relationship, pop the question or move.
lol, good luck :)
2007-03-05 03:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by banney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the normal side of life--despite the brick wall, you have experienced the fun of meeting the one girl who completely floored you when you least expected it. Almost everyone has this happen at least once in a life-time---some do not---you are one of the lucky ones. STOP the drama, and the over thinking of all this--go have fun--what is the worst that can happen??? If not you will hate yourself in 10 years--now, at least, you can say you tried. be a man--get OFF the computer--talk like normal. go out and have real nice fun--in 10 years you will have nice memories to smile about.Stop over analyzing this--that's just nutty...smile, relax, be cool, have fun----good luck, pal
2007-03-05 04:04:37 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same situation with me! i just told this boy that i want him to know that i like talking to him and i like getting to know him better but i am not perfect and sometimes for my own reasons can make mistakes!! he seems have understood me and now everything is getting better, and i feel more free. I think the fact that you back to communication is a good sign for developing this relations!
wish you a lot of luck!!!
2007-03-05 03:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by helga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your question is leaving me dizzy the way you described it no wonder you are going out of your mind.
You most probably wrote the question to fast, and did not really explain yourself properly. I would like to help but you are contradicting yourself in your question so I don't know how to answer. Sorry would really like to help.
First get your question clear in you mind then ask it again.
2007-03-05 03:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing's wrong with wanting to get to know her, especially if you talk to her a lot. you are just interested in her. you should really go for her if there is something in her that makes you want to get to know her. but once you do know her, you'll know if she is actually right for you.
goodluck man
2007-03-05 03:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out for lunch. Chat with her more about herself and urself and see if she is interested in your life and hobbies etc. If she dun reali get involved, you know wat to do. Take the first step. Mayb she already wanted to tell you she liked you too.
2007-03-05 03:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by Happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to know how she is feeling just ask her! Quit thinking so much about it all.
2007-03-05 03:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by ♫ՖքØØķ¥♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her out for a cuppa and chat. Hear her out and take it from there. Until you know what she thinks about your friendship, it pointless driving yourself crazy.
2007-03-05 03:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go on with the flow and get to know her more...
2007-03-05 03:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋