Its about my boyfriend. We are together for 4 months now. I jus found out he talke to some other girl.. well, I signed on yahoo, usin his screenname and some other girl imed him said "hey babe". I was pretending I was him and I said hey back to her and she kept askin me wen can she see me again on webcam. Then I signed off and I was hurt. He dont know that I found out about this. Pls help me... what will I do? Ask him to tell me the truth or jus leave him or what? Pls help me... I really love him and dont want to lose him. Im bout to move in with him da end of dis month. I dont know if he love me or not... Pls help me. I need ur advice!
2007-03-04 19:39:42 · 13 answers · asked by sandy v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him. I feel so bad for you. But look at it this way, at least it's only been 4 months, not longer. I think that if he's hiding this from you, he might have a lot more secrets!!! You can find someone better that is honest. Good luck.
P.S. If I were you, I wouldn't even tell him what you know! Just a word of advice from experience.
2007-03-04 19:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by qt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen baby, pretending like nothing has happened is not going to solve anything, and above all, its not going to make him like you any more. Speaking from a guy's perspective, I personally like strong women, and I respect honesty. By keeping what you think is happening to yourself, you not only lose the guy's respect, but it makes you look like a weak women. Tell him what happened. TALK to him, a relationship is not going to work without honesty. Yeah yeah, he will be pissed about you going through his private stuff, but you can catch him for his dishonest, and in the end, he will appreciate you for your openess. And besides, if he's got some other women maybe he's not the best man to be with?? If i were you i would break up immediately, tell him that you arent the kind of women to deal with bullshit like that. Tell him that if you are not his first priority, then the relationship is not worth having. Once he's realized what he has lost he will come back, maybe he wont. Don't worry there are lots of fish in the sea.
BUT REMEMBER... before you do all this, make sure you have the story straight, that he really was planning to cheat on you, and ask him if he really does love you.
I hope the advice helped.
G playa
2007-03-05 03:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months?? You call that enough time to decide you love him and are going to move in??? And you do the unthinkable invasion of his privacy which ends up a disaster---well you can't possibly say he LOVES you--he might like you--but that is not love as it is meant to be---so do not move in--tell him you changed your mind---don't tell him about the IM session--no need to say anymore--then go--be thankful you found out when you did. What can the guy have that you say you LOVE??? He is a cheat, a disrespectful low life....probably had sex that was unproteceted --you could wind up sick--so just say you are changing your mind--NO DRAMA--just leave. If you stay--you are a pitiful creature, with no self esteem--that is a fact--not to be nasty--just truthful--sometimes women want these abusive types--no one knows why. They just feel they cannot do any better--I hope you can and do a lot better with a nicer guy. good luck
2007-03-05 03:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you really "love" a guy who's obviously a player. Maybe you should try having a little better judgment about people instead of falling for losers. Let me guess what attracted you to this guy in the first place, his looks? His attitude? Something really shallow and stupid that has nothing to do with his character?
Grow up. Get real. You don't "love" people who can't be trusted. Use your brain.
2007-03-05 03:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by WhooHoo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is: DON'T MOVE IN WITH HIM!! You should not move in with him because if you think its hard to leave him now, it is going to be 10 times harder then. And you need to know whats going on. It definately sounds like he is a player. Anyone in a relationship should not be having that kind of conversations (or?) with the opposite sex. So, you think about that, sweetie, because I don't want to even think of how much pain this guy has in store for you. Please be careful and think carefully before making any decisions. One important thing, make sure that it is your decision and not influenced on him sweet talking you - that is typical of someone who cheats is to either get really mad if you ask him anything, or he will be so sweet you could puke if he is trying to sweet talk you into believing that
"it doesn't mean anything". Good luck ~ I will pray for you!
2007-03-05 03:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet would be to probably sit down and talk to him about it. Come clean with him...because that way, if he really IS cheating on you, you can at least have the satisfaction of knowing you were honest with him while he tried to keep it from you. Trust is huge, and if you feel you can't trust him after this, I don't think moving in together would be a great idea.
There are other guys out there who are actually honest (like myself, naturally).
2007-03-05 03:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyf always talks to other girls and I get soo jealous!
But some days something happens and he looks at me or says something and I always realise it's me he loves.
Who knows who this other girl is but they're not together, they may have known each other a long time or they may just have met over the net.
You're in a tricky situation.
I'm always checking his phone and he goes mad and it's never worth it, but it'll always bug you so I would gently confront him, sign in while he's sitting next to you - that's what I do while he's on MSN, and so's his ex- play dumb, who's this duh! ?
Be careful though, don't lose him over something or someone that's most probably nothing like you are to him! Good luck!
2007-03-05 03:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at first - take time to decide about this situation and do nto move in for some time!
talk to him about your feelings and your fears - i htink it was not good to use his screen name - but you can find other reasons and arguments to tell him that you feel unsure about the real situation with your relationships.
And the main advice - be yourself and be beautiful! may be chnge something in your image - a bit - but to draw his attention. May be he just looking for something new . try to be unpredictable and very-very handsome!!!
2007-03-05 03:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by helga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.....
If I were you I will not move to his house... Faithfullness is one of the ingredients of a successful relationship.... Try to ask him about it in a casual way not in nagging way... Pretend as if you dont know the thing about his other girl... when he lie to you it only means that he is not that inlove with you....
There are many Adan waiting for you...
gal you deserve to be happy....
2007-03-05 03:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold off on the moving in with him part until you get everything straightened out. you don't want to be making potentially the biggest mistake of your life. talk to him.
however, i do not agree with signing on to his yahoo sn. that shows you have trust issues and you have doubted him in the past for you to want to do that. reevaluate your relationship before you make any drastic decisions.
2007-03-05 03:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by X-tine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋