If I have lack of confidence to speak in front of an audience what should I do to get the confidence?

Question

If I have lack of confidence to speak in front of an audience what should I do to get the confidnece and get rid of the fear eventhouhg i am handsome person (i think this is an advantage)?

Answer 1

Whenever I have to deliver a speach to a large group I pick one person out of the crowd and focus all my attention on that person. At this point it becomes almost like having a conversation with just that one person.

If you don't think this will work for you try working from small groups of 3-4 listeners up.

If all else fails most colleges offer public speaking courses.

Answer 2

Hi Bla Bla,

Lack of confidence in front of an audience can be a problem. Your physical attractiveness or otherwise won't make much difference to the acceptability of what you say (though if you feel good it will add to your confidence)

First thing...Fear...you've said you have this? Your fear is fuelled by being unsure how you will sound...I think that should be fairly obvious. So LEARN what you are about to say and don't be afraid to carry notes to help remind you what to say. Write short phrases, rather than a long screed as this will remind you of the point(s) you wish to make, but won't make you look and sound like a ventriloquist's dummy because you are reading everything and struggling with your fears.

PRACTISE...Once you have your list of points try it out (if you have patient friends/relatives use them), or even record your speech and then you can listen back and work on any areas you find weaker.

If you KNOW what you are about to say, you will sound, and be, more confident...so know your subject. Work on a little (appropriate) humour to help 'break the ice' with your audience.

Every public speaker has his 'first' and it does seem terrifying, but remember, all those people are there to hear what you have to say. They are not there to throw bricks at you (unless you're REALLY bad!) It will seem hard, but set out to enjoy your moment of fame and attention.

Don't be tempted to drink to give you confidence, as you will just sound indistinct and fuzzy. Save that until after your maiden speech and you can have some to celebrate its success.

Good luck,

BobSpain

Answer 3

Before you get behind the podium, find one person (or a few people) that'll be in the audience and chat with them for a while. Share a funny story or talk about something that will help you relax. You could tell them what your presentation will be about and how you've worked hard on it. When it's time for you to get up there and speak, center in on that person (again, or persons) that you were speaking to prior and give them your presentation as if they're the only ones in the room. This will keep you from staring down at your notes and your eyes will appear to be focused on that person, but to the audience, you'll seem more relaxed. Give that a shot, man.

Answer 4

blah blah blah - ha. well, being good looking is an external advantage but there are a few things you can do to avoid being too nervous or giving it away. I have done some speaking here & there. First, never draw attention to yourself by saying "I'm so nervous or I, this or that," The best thing to do is open w/a short story, joke or anecdote, something relating to your topic. Or, you won't believe what happened on the way over....blah... then, careful what you wear. You're a guy so you might not run across this,but you never wear something that is distracting, bold, wierd or lots of jewelry or huge earrings that move, etc. For a guy, it's simple. And for butterflies before, I usually pray or think about another time or ask myself questions about my topic, etc. Don't eat before or drink for goodness sake! Just water for the dry mouth - you'll do great!! Don't focus on yourself, but on the reason why you're speaking!! and have fun. :)

Answer 5

Yes, being good looking does help :-)
To gain confidence firstly you can start by practising the speech at home, start by standing in front of a mirror and practicing it, then second step is to practice it in front of 3-4 people (like your close friends or anyone who you are comfortable with),and the most important thing is have faith in yourself, keep reminding yourself that its just a speech,you can do it !! Before getting on stage take a few deep breaths, maybe have a glass of water, once in front of the audience, try not to get intimidated by the number of people .... hope it helps... what I do is that i imagine "Ok,there are these people in front of me, they dont know anything about what I'm saying and I have to explain it to them as best as I can" !!
And in the end, remember that getting a little nervous is very normal, everyone does :) !!
All the best !!

Answer 6

first find out what the problem is,analyze it, you say ur good looking so it means ur not worried about how u look, try to figure out what the problem is, is it coz ur not comfortable with the language or u have stage fright. after getting hold of the exact problem try solving it, think how can u make it better, if its language then maybe u can
join some classes or do some reading , if its stage fright, then try practicing in front of the mirror, while on stage imagine its the mirror n not a sea of people, think positive, if others can do it so well u can too , coz ur as good as others
best of luck.

Answer 7

hold something. like a small coin or a pin, so if your getting nervous better press it on the thing that your holding.at least you focus you attention to the thing that your holding.

practicing in front of the mirror helps too but i think recording yourself in video cams and watching it afterwards make you realize hot handsome you are!!!...you can get confidence just by being hansome alone!

Answer 8

generally you benefit adventure and self assurance by skill of doing something like auditions many circumstances. It additionally help to have a good appearing preparation at the back of you and for that reason have the boldness off being a good actor at the back of you. yet youre no longer on my own being fearful at auditions, yet its additionally something youd greater or much less get used to as an actor, for the reason that its so extensive section off an actors existence. Johan.

Answer 9

I was told, visualize that all in the audience are sitting in they're Underwear.
Another one is: pretend the audience is a field of Cabbageheads

Answer 10

Practice what you are going to say in front of a mirror. Know exactly what you want to say and the points you want to make. Carry notes to highlight areas you need to discuss.

Most importantly just know the topic in and out. Know what you want and need to say!

Practice, Practice, Practice.
Ask friends to listen and give their honest opinion.
Then make changes accordingly.