Has his shi* together, good job, own apt (im 23 F, hes 28 M), good family, good upbringing, ultra-marathon runner blah blah the IDEAL bf resume, I thought I struck Gold.
A year later, I still feel like it isn't deep enough, like he doesn't move my spirit & inspire me & make me want to die for him. I always thought soulmates & marriage caliber relationships were when a man "gets" u, is a best friend to u, a confidant, a motivator, a nurturer, a refuge...someone u share dreams & lifelong goals with, someone who supports u in everything- he is none of those :(
Today he was pretty disrespectful to me, other times he has just been mean or distant and our phone conversations NEVER last over 15 min. I feel like it is more a convenient relationship for him and that I'm investing much more emotionally and putting more effort in it. He is easily bothered and I just cant let myself be 100% free w/him. It looks picture perfect but something is DEADLY wrong! Tips are deeply appreciated! Thank u :)
2007-03-04 19:27:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PS: He used to get me roses at total random in the beginning of the relationship & he's stopped, also he won't reveal his salary- not even to his own family which is so strange and shady and makes it very hard for me to know how to handle our financial situations. To sum it all up, I just don't feel like he really cares to know me at my deepest core. It seems superficial. We get along and it is the most drama-free and calm and secure and full of trust relationship I've had but I still feel an emptiness in our partnership. Are my feelings valid or am I too idealistic?
Thanks so much again!
2007-03-04 19:32:37 · update #1
Well then it seems like you need to just tell him how you feel!!
It's been a year. You should be able to communicate with him by now, right?
And the beginning of relationships are always the lovey dovey honeymoon stage fun stuff. It can't always be like that. So don't expect so much all the time.
Again, just tell him exactly how you feel with all the things you think is disrespectful to you or what-not. If he doesn't consider your feelings or listen to what you have to say, he's obviously not worth your time.
2007-03-04 19:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This reads like a big time TV drama--all of this says he won the chase and now that he won--you're done--you said he is competitive--among other things. You are so emotional about this--you can't see the solution--it means get out--he won't change--he has this pattern of chasing a woman, doing all the right things--gets her and it's over--so move on. You will find that he gets worse as time goes on--because he doesn't have the nerve to dump you--he's not into failing or doing the dirty work--so you will get so miserable..you will leave--he has done this before--I guarantee it. Suck it up and move on--hopefully to a real nice caring man. If you stay--don't say I didn't warn you---skip the drama and face the facts--he is a loser.
2007-03-05 03:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well nothing is good enough for you. Her wake up call form Da Boss ,you don't live in a romantic comedy movie. He sounds like a top bloke ,be happy he doesn't punch you every night.
2007-03-05 03:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by daboss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get out now. from the sounds of it, you have wasted the past year with him. if it's meant 2 be, you won't be afraid 2 be yourself and everytime he touches you, you'd know it's real
2007-03-05 03:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what are you waiting for?
Don't you want to be yourself with your partner?
Find someone who respects you and allows you to be you.
2007-03-05 03:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by older mum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋