That is, you are a guy and your girlfriend wants to have sex but you have to break it to her that you like to remain a virigin till marriage. will she take it the wrong way?
how to break it to her properly keeping yours and her diginity intact?
2007-03-04 19:04:43 · 14 answers · asked by Ezerage 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is difficult since time is passing along and she is probably starting to wonder...
I think you have to tell her that she is amazingly sexy and that you care about her/love her/like her or whatever the case may be, but that you plan to be a virgin...
She is going to need a lot of reasurance about how you feel about her and and that you are not toying with her emotions and that you want to keep seeing her.
She will probably need a lot more compliments than a lover would about her appearance, her personality, her eyes etc. Women are simply not as confident and secure as men.
If she likes you she will stick with you, and she will respect you for your decision. I certainly do.
2007-03-04 19:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask; her if she has heard of the "golden vow". That is something people (young especially) do to let it be known that they are waiting until marriage for sex. That is the ultimate way for a couple to express physically their love for each other. That is what marriage is about. Their love and committment to each other. Let her know you agree 100% with this "golden vow". And, that even though you care about her, you are wanting to wait. It also helps prevent the spread of std's, aids, etc. in our world. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-03-05 03:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take some time out to her when you are both alone and tell her. It is a hard subject and maybe she is not ready for it, but maybe she wants to have sex before then. So, in the end, you could be wasting time with her (no offense). Just come out with it, always be honest.
2007-03-05 03:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Dingdingdong 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, whether it's religious, ethical, personal. She should understand. Also if it's religious you should really be dating someone who's in your religion. As much as it's a sin to have premarital sex, it's a sin to raise kids in a non-christian household.
Keep that one in mind. If I were you, and you were a little older (maybe 20) i'd just do it. I dont think it's a big sin either way.
2007-03-05 03:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by elvatoloco2025 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her. What is the worse that can happen??? She will say no?? Well that means she is not the right one for you. You should never feel pressured to anything, and if you run into a person who can't respect your morals, and your beliefs then that person was never, and will never be you friend. I think she will respect you, and honor you for it. Good luck.
2007-03-05 03:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by Princess B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Tell it to her straight and tell her why you feel that way. If she loves you then she will know you are worth the wait. I wish I had waited myself and I applaud you for sticking to your guns.
2007-03-05 03:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jayson Kane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Practice, practice & practice your speech. Evaluate thoroughly how you view pre-marital sex. Write it down, practice it in front of the mirrow. Eventually, tell it to the GIRL
2007-03-05 03:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by Boston_Legal_Fan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her I guess.
By the way, I salute your resolve!
2007-03-05 03:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by harsh_bkk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her flat out. If she loves you she'll understand, and wait till then, if not then she isn't worth it.
2007-03-05 03:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by Amber 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
buy her a sex toy and explain that she'll have to be using this for a while
2007-03-05 05:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Kos Kesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋