how to feel better about yourself?

Question

i have tried many things, but it just seems bad luck follows me everywhere i go and im starting to hate my life. i feel completely unattractive, both inside and out, and get very anxious about work or social settings. i have learnt the guitar, tried exercising, saying/writing things down, but nothing seems to work. religion is not an option, because i cant buy into it. i realise that i am ugly (yellow teeth, very hairy back and shoulders, covered in freckles, short, overweight, pale, dry skin) and i just feel so ripped off with the way i look. i am 21 and never had a gf, or even a girl interested in me. i am too embarassed to talk to family or friends about how i feel as i see it as a weakness and something i should be able to deal with. i have also been smoking marijuana for the last couple of years since my father past away (i already felt bad about myself before this happened though). so what can you do to lift your self confidence and feel better about yourself?

Answer 1

Just step back and appreciate life, man. You've got your whole life ahead of you - you're not in a vegetative state, you're not blind, nor are you disabled in any way. There's no better way to cheer up than to count your blessings. Oh, and try volunteering at places like hospitals or the Salvation Army.

Don't set too much store by romantic relationships. Sure, they make you feel good, but in the long run, you're going to be caught unawares and be hurt. That would really mess you up.

I don't know what sort of religious experience you've had, but I assure you that it can be a great comfort. Even if it does turn out to be fake and all (which I do not think is the case), religion is a nice lifestyle and mindset. Think of it as a philosophy. I suggest that you read C.S. Lewis's book Mere Christianity for more on the subject.

And stop the marijuana usage. It's not going to help, the more you use it, the more you'll depend upon it for your happiness.

It's all subjective - if you start looking on to the bright side of things, you'll find that life is pretty sunny after all.

Answer 2

I think confidence is 100% in your head. You can look in the mirror and focus on the bad or you can try to find something good about yourself. Think about your positive characteristics (don;t say you don;t have any), and focus on those. You can overcome what you are feeling but you need to think positive and stay positive. The only person that can change this is you. You don't need to depend on drugs (prescription or other) you just need to make a decision to be happy. If you need someone to talk to, shoot me an email and we can talk. Positive thinking will get you a lot farther than you realize, but it starts with making a decision to be happy.

Answer 3

Act confident and feel you are better than everyone else. Also go tanning, make up a work out plan...even if you have tried it. It works for me! Go get a make over even if you are a guy. Buy new clothes. Start over. You only have one life, might as well enjoy it while you're here right?

Answer 4

in my opinion, i think 1st u've to put yourself together, that was my best high school advice from health teacher(she was hard on me, but she was totally right i should thank her), i was always missing her class, & making up totally stupid axcuses, drop out of school, drank, did drugs, but after i put myself together, went to ged school, started to like sence of accomplishment, making new friends. Why im saing this, because it does not sounds like u enjoy smoking weed anymore it would just take u down the hill, so put urself together, u'll gain sence of accomlishment & would like urself more, plus there're not so many girls that would like hard core pot head, with no confidance. ALSO TO GAIN CONFIDANCE, start concentrate only on your best features, something unique and cool about yourself, that u like the most, example i dont like my very small boobs (there many guys that like them) but i like the most my tall legs and big eyes. U know some features that u dont like about urself like freckles, other girls might find it attractive. About features that u dont like, yellow teeth than u can imrove them( use teeth whitener), overweight than excersice 30 min run daily would work, dont give up, plus excerise rise good hormones adrenalines, that make u think better and feel. So what im saying, on your feutures that u dont like u can improve, u can have mini makeover, brightener for teeth, wax ur back, run 1hr every other day, work on it, dont give up and dont wine abt it, work on it. Can u imagine Janet Jackson after superbawl scandal she gained alot weight, if she sat at home complained about how she's tired of her weight and not doing anything than i dont think she would come back on the scene again. What im saying, be strong in yourself, believe in yourself, be more positive, look on the brighter site of things, dont give up,( one of book writer said" I dont carre how many times u fall, when u fall and should KEEP GETTING UP), & look on the brighter site that u're healthy u can walk u can see hear, just maybe u need little apearance fix But U know evey1 need that ones in while even super models like Victoria Secret or many more, evry1 has those kind of days....Just be strong in yourself and believe in yourself

Answer 5

Dont hate your life. Hate what life has made you into. Your physicall appearance is natural. F**K everyone who judges you by appearance. Thats what the system has made you. Fight the system.

Answer 6

talk to your close Friends and relative