my boyfriend of one year always has to get drunk before he has sex with me can you tell me why this is and am i wasting my time and deserve something better should i let him go cus its just messed up in my opinion
2007-03-04 18:45:25 · 17 answers · asked by poohbear27 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's messed up!
You're wasting your time you deserve better.
2007-03-04 18:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Rich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no one reason why someone has to get drunk to do anything. the best way to find out is to get to know him better and possibly ask about it. you're not dealing with some abstract person that acts according to statistical generalities but a real live person and so to understand why they do anything you have to understand their world, their perspective, their experience and the meaning they give things.
This is an issue that needs to be brought up and dealt with. as to whether you're wasting your time and should let him go it depends on the answers you find when you find out why he does what he does. if you don't know the answer then you simply do not know him well enough and if after a year you STILL do not know this about him then you guys should definately be communicating more.
2007-03-05 05:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kos Kesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that the first time he had sex with you he was drunk? I never had sex being drunk but I understand the blood circulation to the erectal organ is very low and that leads to erectal disfunction. Your boyfriend may be a shy person who believe that for him to sleep with you he must be drunk first, In certain cultures men I shy to be naked in front of their girls and that may be the case. Wait for him when he is sober, walk around naked and see how he reacts, if he shivers then he has naked fright, if he tells you to put your cloths on then he has cultural problem. Then talk to him face to face when he is sober and talk to him in a romantic way not blaming him. do you drink? Never mind the answer. good luck
2007-03-05 02:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Yahoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the ****? Have you asked why he does this? Maybe getting drunk relaxes him because sex can be intimidating for some men. They worry too much about their performance. Just stop him from getting drunk next time. And explain why if he ask.
2007-03-05 02:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by Running Man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has some kind of performance anxiety, or some other kind of anxiety, and when he's drunk he can over come that anxiety. You should talk to him and see if you can find out from him why he has to be drunk. If it is some kind of anxiety, maybe he can try viagra, or something like that. Something better than alcohol.
2007-03-05 02:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is wrong with that if every time he wants you to be drunk. I would ask him what the deal is and if he doesn't give you a good, honest answer you should leave him.
2007-03-05 02:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by brewbeer212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who gets drunk is messed up! Let him go...
But thats me..
2007-03-05 02:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by harsh_bkk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like time for a new boyfriend.
2007-03-05 02:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by bestbet77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you truly think you deserve something better, then leave. If you did I would assume you would have already left.
2007-03-05 02:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by daboss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that must be costly! the first thing that comes to mind is lack of confidence in his performance! if that is the case,when drunk,all or most his inhibitions are forgotten
2007-03-05 03:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by CHARLIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋