how do i get over a death in front of my face like that? its never happened to me before?

Question

i have a sick and sad problem to tell you!!! well i went to stay the night at my cousins for the weekend and yesterday we all watched a movie me my brother my cousin my other cousin and his soon to be wife well my cousins cat kally had 5 baby kittens 5 weeks ago and when we went there this weekend the kittens were on the floor laying down and the movie was over and then my brother was getting up to go get somthing to drink and he accsidently stepped on one of the kittens neck and broke it till the bone popped out of the neck and blood was goring out of its mouth and neck and it was wobbing around every where and every body was crying and screaming and then the kitten fell to the ground and started twitching and then finaly closed its eyes goodbye...it was a sad and angry moment. i was sooo shocked and heather eric soon to be wife was screaming because it was the one she was going to keep. but i know it went to heaven. we took it outside somwhere and i dont know how to let go of pain??

Answer 1

I am so sorry honey, that had to be the worst moment in your life. It doesn't seem fair that you and your family would have to go through something like this.
The best way to get past this pain is to find something else to focus on, for example the Mommy Cat, or a kitten that you want to keep. If that doesn't work then find a human you can focus on, or maybe a puppy. Time will cause the memory to become less sharp, I promise.
And most of all remember this is an accident, no one set out that day to hurt a kitten, they tend to be everywhere you aren't looking. That kitten didn't suffer, and when he left this world he went to heaven, and he is running around with all the other animals that everyone has held dear to them. Remember that thought while you fight to get past this.

Answer 2

O Brittany How sad. It was an accident but it is still really really hard. Time is the best healer for something like this. Time and not dwelling on it. I have had a kitten die in my hand from a scorpion bite. I didn't know about the scoripon untill after he died and I was even more upset because I would have never let it happen if I had known that thing was in the house it woulpd have been gone. I cried and cried. Holding the other kittens and telling them I loved them helped some but not a lot right then. Obviously we took the kittens and their mommie outside in her carrier to a safe place and sprayed that house beyond thoroughly and then scrubbed it and the activity probably helped too and the sense that I was protecting the other kittens. I write so it helped me to write a poem about the kitty..it was my favorite of the litter too. It helped me to talk to someone I was close to and to listen to music that was soothing to me but the thing that helped most was just living each day and seeing the other kittens live and grow up and go to good homes, That and praying for help to get through it and someone praying for me.

Answer 3

This is very sad. I don't know how old you are, but it may take a while to get over this. Reading the first part of your question made my mind jump right back to the tragic loss of a kitten I had 35 years ago. I do not feel like vomiting now when I think of it, but it has been a long time. The kitten is no longer in pain, but the memory will be with you. You'll have to try to think of other thoughts when the memory comes into your mind. It was just a baby and it was an accident. I am sorry!

Answer 4

I don't know how to answer this for you ...I didn't even read the whole thing cause it's too painful for even me to read ....I had something like that happen to an adult cat that I took care of and loved dearly and he was killed by a pitbull which is something I couldn't begin to describe ...it broke my heart because I held myself responsible for it because he was just coming in the back yard because I was there ...I cried and felt like crap for a week until I was camping and I found this little kitten that couldn't be more than 5 weeks old ...he was wild and had wandered away from his mommy and I took him home ...I feel he had come into my life to help me get over this pain ...I have him to this day and I love him very much ...I never got over what happenned completely ...but things like that happen with kittens alot ...they are very delicate ...if you can adopt one of them take it home and make a point to give it all the love that it deserves ...and one day this thing won't be so painful for you ...

Answer 5

Hi Brittany, I have tears in my eyes right now. That is a awful thing that happen, but your brother didn't mean to step on the poor kitten. Things like this just makes me sick to my tummy. Just let it out and cry. You will feel a little better if you do. One thing you can do to help you to let go of this awful thing that happen,is make something for the poor kitten and put it on her grave. Like maybe home made flowers or put the kitten flavor toy in a clear box and place it on her grave. You will beable to move on,and feel better about yourself. I am truly sorry about the kitten.
A Friend.

Clowmy

Answer 6

Holy ****. I watched my mom accidently step on a kitten too and it wasen't killed instantly. My grandpa had to get the gun to put the poor thing out of it's misery(what could we do, take a half-dead kitten to the vet 4 towns away, back in '84, I don't think so)
Anyways I know exactly how you feel and that incident still haunts me, just push the bad thought away for as long as possible aand soon you'll only remember parts of it. I'm 27 and still remember bits and peices.Good luck honey, just don't dwell on it. but at least tell a close friend to get the images out of your head.

Answer 7

I had a kinda similar experience; we had a young puppy and she jumped out of my mom's arms and hit her head on the hard wood floor. She went all limp and we thought she died instantly. Then we really freaked out because I could see her eyes looking around at us. I thought she was in serious pain and we were gonna have to kill her. My dad got up and put her under the covers in his bed and got her warm and comfortable and she just sprung up and was like, "what's everybody crying about?"

Anyway, I think you should just concentrate on the fact that it was an accident, likely didn't put the cat in much pain, and she is in a better place. It wasn't anyone's fault.;(

Answer 8

What a horrible thing to have witnessed. Remember, though, it was an accident and wasn't yours or anyone elses fault. I have trodden on my dogs countless times and you always feel guilty when it happens. Time IS a great healer and eventually the memories will fade. I'm pretty sure your brother feels twice as bad as you do and probably feels very responsible. Try talking it through with each other, he probably needs as much support as you do.

Answer 9

This is why I keep my cats inside my bedroom whenever my grandkids or their freinds are around. I feel soooo bad for that poor kitten and I am sorry that you have to witness such an awful tragic event... but I do hope that you all learn from it... that you can't gallop and clown around smal animals becuase accidents will happen

Answer 10

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