how can i help my 2yr old daughter get over her jeoulosy towards my 31/2 month old son??? she cries more because she realizes that when he cries, he gets attention. she was a very well mannered baby but now she throws horrible tantrums usually for absolutley nothing!!
2007-03-04 18:22:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Let her become involved with some of the care of her brother, Little things like getting a diaper, or something. I use to let my 3 year old feed her brother his dessert. She absolutely loved it! It's hard for them to suddenly not be the child with all of your attention. All she needs is to part of the process. Making a big deal out of how much help she is to mommy goes a long way. Instead of sitting on the sidelines watching HER mommy take care of this new someone being part of it all will help her to accept her brother as part of the family and boost her self esteem.
2007-03-05 09:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Forgotten Ones 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a normal 2 year old. Pay no attention to the tantrums. If she throws herself down in front of you just step over her and keep going. Don't acknowledge or even look at her and she will soon stop. When she is being good spend some time with her praising her for being a good girl . While feeding the baby read a book with her, watch a DVD. Put the baby down and sit and colour. A baby does not need to be held all the time so spend some time doing things with her. Get her involved in cleaning. Give her the vacuum. It won't be the best job but she will have fun and feel grown up. Stand her beside you when you do the dishes. Give her the plastic stuff to dry. Kids this age love to help.
2007-03-05 03:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her more attention. MAybe when the baby is napping make a paly date with her...color some pictures or paint..make sure to let her know that this is for you guys only to do and the new baby cant do it. My daughter was about this age when I had my baby boy. Let her help out..give the baby a bath...give baby some toys..take pictures of them both....have her get a diapie when you are going to change the baby or let her pick out clothes for the baby. You can also let her go to the $1 store and pick out a special toy or special food thats just for her. At this age she really does not understand why you need to help the baby more. Don't punish her for acting out. Set her down and talk to her..ask her why she is sad or why she did what she did. Make sure to tell everyone that she is *the big sister* and a big help. Don't let other family members forget about her also or treat her differently than the new baby. SHe is also that age!!
2007-03-05 03:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I have two thoughts here. First, she's acting just like a perfectly normal 2-year old. Treat her tantrums like you would ANY OTHER terrible two tantrum. Second, if you are, in any way, demonstrating to her that you think the root cause of her behavior is sibling rivalry, you're encouraging it. They take their behavioral cues from us... so we need to just NOT ACKNOWLEDGE that there is any such thing as sibling rivalry and treat individual bad behavior as exactly that. In other words, don't be so cautious about sibling rivalry that you project it into the situation... Make sense?
Make sure you're spending adequate time with her... I know, that's tough to do with a little one in the house... but do what you can. And don't cave in to the tantrums. Treat them like you would if she was an only child.
2007-03-05 02:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Amy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess this is normal, my 7 yr old did the same, not crying just doing things to get any attention. Have someone watch they baby and you take the 2 yr old out just the 2 of you. Each child needs that alone time. i never understood how parents could have 9 kids like in the old days, or the family with 16 come one that's just crazy.
2007-03-05 02:29:49 · answer #5 · answered by brandyswilkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy did I have that problem. Although it may be tough with a new baby, you do need to spend "special" time with your daughter. Also, try to invovle your daughter in things you do for your son. Like ask her to help you change his diaper by getting the wipes, diaper, cream. Ask her to maybe go get the baby's bottle or a blanket or help give him a bath. Just try to involve her with things you yourself would normally do with the baby. Make sure you tell her she is such a great big sister and a big help to mommy. That way she might not get so jealous because she is invovled as well. Good luck.
2007-03-05 02:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by dj_jonesd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had your son right in the middle of her "terrible twos" Yeah she is going to continue to throw horrible tantrums because that is the age she is in. My advice is to ignore the tantrums because that is WHY she throws them. To get YOUR attention. And of course the new baby isn't helping any. I suggest getting her to help you with the baby. Have her "help" you diaper, bathe, clothe the baby so that she gets attention along with the baby.
2007-03-05 02:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My pediatrician recommended an amazing book that I am reading right now as I am about to have my second baby -- it's called "Siblings Without Rivalry." I am halfay through the book and have found it so well written, easy to understand, practical, and very helpful with sound insight!
I got copy at the library -- go check it out or buy it TODAY!
2007-03-05 02:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Finnale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my eldest was like that. try what i tried (it worked for us) have her help with the baby and PRAISE her for being such a good helper, and have a time set aside every day where it's just the two of you and you go do something together without baby, like swimming at the pool, or going out for a treat or something else that she'd enjoy. when ever she acts good really praise her for it, i can't say that enough, she'll start seeing the benefits to being a "big sister" who doesn't act like a baby if you do it right
2007-03-05 03:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Involve her in your daily routine of caring for the new baby. She's jealous and feels left out.
2007-03-05 02:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋