Potty training help???

Question

My nephew is 39 months (3 and 3 months) and still will NOT be potty trained. We don't really use rewards when does go, we just give him positive reinforcement, telling him he is a big boy and stuff like that. He may only be three but he is taller than most 5 year olds and rapidly out growing diapers and pull-ups. We have tried getting him "big boy underwear" with spiderman on them so that he wouldn't go to the bathroom on spiderman....no such luck. My sister is not very strict about him going potty, she just complains when he doesn't go. It is getting out of hand, and he is getting much too old for diapers and pull-ups. And we are out of ideas...Help?

Answer 1

Well the only thing to do in these situations is what you have been doing up to now. Many kids out of no where just start going on their own. So if you have just tried everything he might not be ready yet. But sometimes you do have to be a little more strict with them and show them who is in charge. This does not necessarily mean hitting or spanking but just be more strict. Good Luck !

Answer 2

We have thrown cheerios in the toilet and had the boys "shoot the cheerios". Also a small reward like 1 M&M for each time is very special to them. They get excited about it! Consistency is also a HUGE part of it. When potty training one of the kids I would take them to the potty on a hourly basis, even if they didn't have to go. I also would ask "do you need to go potty?" very often as well. Repeating with a toddler is very important. Once you get to a point where they are going a little more often in the toilet...they will begin to despise the "wet" feeling in their diaper. When my kids started taking their diapers off because they were wet, I started putting big kid pants on them. We had many many many accidents for the first couple weeks....baths and laundry do become tedious, but it pays off in the end. Hope that helps a little.

Answer 3

A pet peeve of mine is the people who claim their kids were trained at a yr or some inane age (you doing all the work for the child is not a trained child rather a trained adult). A child will go when ready, if they are exposed to the whole concept.

We tried taking off diapers when appropriate, and letting them run around naked. For whatever reason, sometimes it helps them to think about it, and makes them use the toilet. Another pet peeve is people who place the potty chairs in the living room, etc.

Keep in mind that it is like housebreaking a pet, and that after eating, drinking, or first thing in the morning are all good times to take the boy to the bathroom and have him use the toilet. He will eventually get the hang of it, and remember I don't think there are many kids in college not yet toilet trained!

Answer 4

Potty training is quite difficult. This is the age when children learn to be self-sudfficient in many activities including toilet training. Children bfrom 1-3 years of age explore and at times tend to doubt their abilities. I would reward my son but accidents do happen, in situations like that punishment will only prolong the process, and creat a negative image for a child.erik erikson calls this stage Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt. where as Sigmund Freud would call this the Anal stage and is considered one of the most important stages in childhood growth. I recomend patience,and positive support.

Answer 5

I usually recommend waiting until the CHILD is ready to be potty trained and quite OBVIOSLY that wasn't the case here...however it is also obvious that the mother who BEGAN the potty training before the child was ready is extremely LAZY and inconsistent in her lack of "follow through". She doesn't want to be bothered with potty training yet complains about having to change diapers. This problem is CLEARLY not the child's fault and putting all of the blame on him is totally OUTRAGEOUS. His blatantly lazyassed mother needs to take parenting classes and learn some parenting skills because it is obvious she has NONE. I can see that this little guy has a very tough and will continue to have a tough row to hoe because of his mother, maybe someday something will happen to cause CPS to step in and maybe give him a better life than what's instore for him now.

Answer 6

IF he doesn't want to pee on the toilet, there isn't much anyone can do. IF his mother doesn't care if he does, then there isn't much anyone can do either.

If he isn't interested in using the toilet, you can have a man he is close to take him into the bathroom and watch the man pee, that may give him the idea.

Either way there are larger kids good nights until the mom and the kid are ready.

Answer 7

DEAR
FOR (#1) USE A COFFEE CAN IT MAKES IT SOUND LIKE IT IS RAINING OUT SIDE A TIN ONE IF YOU HAVE ONE. IF NOT THE NEWER ONES WILL WORK AS FOR (#2) A MUSICAL POTTY CHAIR WHEN MOMMY GOES TO POTTY BABY GOES TO HE DOES NOT WANT TO BE BY HIM SELF OK DO NOT GIVE UP AND PRENTICE MAKES PERFECT OK
TAKE CARE

Answer 8

buy some adult diapers and wear them so he can see how silly they look.

maybee tell him he is old enough to change his own diaper if he wants to keep wearing them.

tell your sister to put a little more effort into making him want to get over diapers

Answer 9

I read this book that shows you how to potty train your chid in five hours , i used it for my son last november and he had good results
http://tinyurl.com/2bynel