2007-03-04 18:04:34 · 19 answers · asked by netta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My cousin was going out with a man for 17 before they got married so I'd stay.
2007-03-04 18:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you guys are. If you are talking about 14 years and you are considered grown like mid 20's and up then I'd have to think about that. I mean what is he waiting on? Matter of fact what are the both of you waiting on? Just talk to him and get his ideas a feelings about marriage before you even bring up why he hasn't asked you. If will make some men think that they are being forced into doing something that they may not be ready to do. But I would definately have a talk with him because if you want marriage and he doesn't then you have to think is it worth staying with him and never getting married or be with someone that you want and that person wants you enough to marry you? Good luck
2007-03-05 02:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is real personal to that person, BUT if one of the people have always wanted to get marry then I would leave. If they are both happy and content then if it isn't broke why fix it. I would ask that person why he doesn't want to get marry. It might be time for an ultimatum, because obviously he is never going to want to get marry. It was was 3-7 years I wouldn't recommend a ultimatum, but 14 years is insane. He isn't happy with this ultimatum then he had no ideas of ever getting married. Then you will know where you stand.
2007-03-05 02:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by ME!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being in a relationship for 14 years Your guy should know how important it is for you to marry, you guys should be able to discuss anything after this length of time? If you really really want to marry and he definately won't then it's time to consider the options
all the best
Paul
2007-03-05 02:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by paul R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to question your self-esteem and wonder what your mental issues are that you would stay with a guy past 5 years without moving to the next step of marriage.
2007-03-05 02:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. There's 14 years of your life that you'll never get back.
If it hasn't happened within the first 2 years then it's not likely to happen at all.
2007-03-05 02:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was with my ex for 14 yrs and we never got married we have 3 kids and yes i still love him very much and hes going through something that i don't understand if he comes back i'll take him back. so no don't ask him about it who knows maybe he thinks you don't want to get married. yes if you truly love each other
2007-03-05 02:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by alice k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after the second to third year i'd find his intentions. if he has no plans to marry you by then.. then he's not going to and if you want to marry and settle down.. ditch the sloth and find someone better. he's not worth waiting 14 years for without commitment.
2007-03-05 02:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs in a relationship without marriage
after you are 18 yrs. of age...
Never have kids out of wedlock..
2007-03-05 02:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is not ready yet for marriage.... I would keep the relationship going... The longer you know each other the better chances of having a happy, successful marriage life...
2007-03-05 02:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by Redeemed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋