Okay, so my brother had a child out of wedlock. Not his best decision making (the sex, i mean), but now there is this adorable little 6mo old (he'll be 7mos on friday) that i, his aunt, have fallen in absolute love with. But the mother and my brother don't exactly get along all the time (a very long story, in short, she still loves him, but he's not too into her anymore, just wants to take care of his baby). so whenever they get into an argument, (which is usually pretty often) my mom makes me wait until they have resolved it until we can bring him home. I was wondering, is that fair to me, or us (my parents and me)? I know that it is their kid and all, but if they are having an issue, as long as we are staying out of it, there should be no problem with us spending time with him, right? i just don't get it. All i want to do is see my nephew, not get into my brothers' personal life. Is what my mom doing right? I just want some clarification. Thanks
2007-03-04 17:36:03 · 5 answers · asked by Confused & Young 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh, and whenever they are having a problem, they never say that we can't see my nephew, it's not like that. that's some of what i don't understand with my mom's decisions.
2007-03-04 17:37:42 · update #1
I am not whining "CG", so don't go passing judgement on me. And i konw what family is, as a matter of fact our family is a rather strong one.
2007-03-04 20:28:38 · update #2
If your mom won't let you bring your nephew home do you have other options to see him? Can you visit him at his mom's? Or hit a park or playplace together? Contact with family is way more important than where it happens.
2007-03-05 01:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you Mom is making a smart choice. She probably doesn't want to seem as if she's interfering in the relationship between your brother and his "girlfriend". If she were to bring your nephew home while the arguing was going on, the baby's mother might get angry and take the child and run. Then you would probably never see him.
2007-03-05 10:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there's nothing wrong with you seeing baby. It will be GOOD for baby to have a strong extended family, and it will be GOOD for you, too! Nieces and nephews are sooo fun! Sort of like 'practice grandchildren.'
2007-03-05 01:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being there for one and another. That's the definition of family. Taking bull **** and supporting each other even when you hate it. That's what family is. So be supportive and stop whining. You are not even in half a bad situation as your brother is. Learn to grow up and be responsible to hold the family together.
All the best.
2007-03-05 03:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is your mom trying to protect the child from the fighting?
If so, yes she is doing the right thing.
2007-03-05 02:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋