What do you think of my parents?

Question

Okay so im 20 years old but I want to know if you consider this child abuse or neglect or something like that.

My parents have 3 girls, me 20, a 22 year old and a 15 year old. I am 115 pounds and have always been thin and been active and in HS was on track and cheerleading and I have always loved to work out and exercise ,eat healthy and can not stand being in the house.

My two sisters are the exact opposite,they have always sat at home watching TV or sleeping and eating junk food and my parents allowed them to do that, they bought them the junk food and never tried to encourage them to go out and play.

My sister is 22 and probably weighs 300 pounds and has a crooked spine do to her weight. She recently had a job at Highs and every cent went to junk food and my mom will take her to buy fast food and ice cream ad other junk ad when I said she's allowing my sis to slowly kill herself she said she's 22 and she can not control what she eats ,umm hello your the one driving her to get the junk food and my dads family has a serious problem with diabetes and the way she has been feeling lately my dad thinks she has it and if so she may be stuck taking a needle everyday which she cant do herself obviously because she faints at the site of needles. She is just not normal, she has no friends or life, she is like afraid of people , all she does is eat and sleep, she is 22 and thinks sex is disgusting.

My 15 year old sister is pretty much going down the same path as the older one, she has friends and goes out once in a while but eats all the time, its like every time I see her she has food in her hands. A doctor has told my mom she is overweight and to put her on a diet and that lasted like a week, she weighs like 190 pounds and has stretch marks on her arms, legs and stomach. I had a baby and do not even have one stretch mark..My little sister also has a crooked spine like my older sister does...I blame my parents for both of them being this way, for one the 15 year old is a minor so yeah they can put there foot down on what she eats and the 22 year old is in there house and there the ones driving her to get the junk, they need to put there foot down and say no more taking her shopping till she eats healthy and responsible.

Answer 1

Contrary to what some people think, I believe this is child abuse. In fact, on the news recently there was a segment about a mother who was about to lose her 8 year old son because of his weight. What kind of parent would let their children eat that much and be that unhealthy? However I don't think there is really anything you can do about it. If you really want to help your sisters, then talk to your doctor and tell them your concerns. Or, try talking to your sisters high school counselor. Ask them what you can do to help them (programs in your area, counseling, etc)? I would also talk to your mother and lay it on the line. Tell her how you feel about her contributing to the problem. Finally, talk to your sisters. If they want help, let them know you are there for them. If they don't want help, there really isn't much you can do. Be grateful that you have a different lifestyle.

Answer 2

I don't think it is child abuse however your parents should be pro active in trying not to allow that type of sensless eating go on when they both have weight issues and diabetes to boot.
I think that you have a good head on your shoulders. With your experience in being physically active, if you show your sisters that you are interested in helping them, maybe that will help them WANT to make a change for the better.
You never know what is going on inside of their minds. They may be feeling very insecure and depressed and feel they have no other way out. I am sure it is difficult for your older sister to see you, who is thin, and physically active.. There is probably somthing inside of her that wants to be like you but maybe she just doesn't know how to begin.
my parents were neglectful and abusive. they compared me to everyone else in the world who was better and it made me feel like crap. I became lazy, depressed and developed an eating disorder. AT the time, if I just had that one person come to me to want to help, it would have made all the difference in the world.
Instead , I had to live with the pain for many years until I got some sense in me and started seeking therapy on my own.
You have an opportunity to at least try to help them begin to heal. All you can do is try, if they don't accept your help, then there isnt' a lot you can do, but for the sake of your family, it seems that you are the only one with a good head on their shoulders and you may be the only chance they have.

Answer 3

You could help your little sister out I think the older one has to decide to change on her own though. Make your little sister interested in the stuff you did in high school. Try running with her or walking for the time being make it a fun experience for her. Bonding as they say you could be the influence that your parents are neglecting to give her. If you give her enough support I think you can change her around. Also, try cooking healthy foods with her get her interested in taking care of herself.

Have a talk with your parents as well and tell them your concerns. Say you don't want to be sister-less in 20 years if they don't change their is nothing you can do about it, but at least you will know you tried.

Answer 4

Sounds like your mom is trying to make sure your sisters can never leave her. Your family essentially functions like alcoholic families.

If your 22 year old sister went on Atkins, eliminated all sugar and white flour from her body, she would feel differently in about 10 days.

Answer 5

Not exactly child abusive but really, your parents should have the best interest of their kids at heart. They should be better parents. You are so right. Buy them a book on good parenting for their b'day. If that's too far, just buy one now. They should know that it's bad for their kids' health. Coax them hard. Take the help of a counseller or a doc

Answer 6

I'm not even reading your question because you have highly pissed me off.

"Wendy just because your idiot sisters life turned out all honkey dory does not mean hers will, my cousins EX gf had an abortion and now she can never have kids."

I feel great that you mentioned me in one of your answers. But saying that I have an idiot sister is a VERY immature way to proove your point. And I'm truly sorry about your cousin! That sucks, but that's just ONE person! Most people that have abortions are able to have kids again!

"A lot of my friends have told me I should be a therapist or counselor because I have always been so helpful to people, I am very well educated and in many peoples eyes give great advice."

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! Your friends must be nuts. Don't be so conceited!!!

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Well, so I don't get in trouble...I'll answer your question.

I think that your parents obviously had a favorite and picked you...God knows why since I don't like you very much.

There's my answer.

Have a great day.

Answer 7

I think your parents have a problem and have created two bigger problems. Lucky for you, you didn't fall into the same unheathy behaviors.