ok. i borke up with my Bf in nov. started seeing a new guy in dec.
Because of the break up... i was very hesitant about things going far.... i wanted to but... for the longest time i felt guilty and would always stop things at the last second. So in the last month. i got over my guilt... and started to relax and i want to take things furthur but now he's holding back. The last time we hang out(2 days ago) i put all my best moves on him... and he told me he had to leave. Is he no longer interested and doesnt wanna hurt my feelings or am i just putting to much focus on little details?
2007-03-04 17:24:41 · 5 answers · asked by juli_jugz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're missing the big picture AND the little picture here.
It usually takes time to fall in love and it ALWAYS takes time to fall out.
From Nov. to Dec. is waaay too fast. Most people can't and shouldn't move that fast or jump back in that quickly. It creates confusion for everybody when you send mixed or conflicting signals.
Your confusion was showing, big time, and now you've probably confused him too so he's backing off. Don't blame him.
Give it a rest and him too. Suggest you both take a little time and try again later when you're REALLY ready.
2007-03-04 19:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,you have created a space between the two of you. Just slow down. Don't keep trying to put your "best moves" on him. Spending quality time with the real you will work wonders,and eventually he will come around. Relax and be patient. If you really like this guy,it will all be worth it.
2007-03-05 01:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by Everett M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much focus on little details. Just relax, be freinds with this guy first. Communication is important. If you are really concerned, ask this guy what is going on. Just sit down, get to know him, and all this stuff will fall into place as it is suposed to. Take care.
2007-03-05 01:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk open and honest with him to see why he is reacting the way he is, maybe he is trying to protect you. Give him the benefit of the doubt.
2007-03-05 01:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by It's been awhile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He's Just Not That In To you".....READ IT!!!!
2007-03-05 01:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by violet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋