i would like to know if it is customary to invite the following to the wedding reception/dinner:
the reverend
the reverend's wife
the singer from our ceremony
the violinist from our ceremony
Also, if the answer is "Yes" to any or all of these, should i mail them invitations, like I would any other guest?
2007-03-04 17:07:10 · 16 answers · asked by Heather H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For clarification purposes---All are paid ($200) professionals (with the exception of the reverend's wife) and I have not met the singer or violinist prior to booking them for the ceremony.
Also, this is not so much a matter of cost as it is a matter of proper ettiquette/not wanting to offend anyone/not wanting to imply that a gift is requested/having virtual strangers at our reception/etc.
2007-03-04 18:16:59 · update #1
I wouldnt invite them unless you know them. if you know the reverend (like you go to that church or something) then its ok to invite them, but other then that no...marrying you is what they do...like part of their job. you dont invite the people who sell you your wedding dress, make your flowers, do your hair and makeup (unless its a friend) so I dont see why you would need to invite these people either. good luck with the wedding!
2007-03-05 01:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bother inviting any of the above people. After the wedding I would send them a card thanking them for making your day special and leave it at that.
In the end it is up to you, if you are still unsure ask your reverend, just approach him by saying that you are unsure of the protocol and don't want to offend - he is a reverend and will tell you what is accepted. My friends husband is a pastor and only get's invited to a few receptions, manly that of people that he knows quiet well, through the church, but he tends to marry people a lot more often now from outside the church who either have links into the church or have family attending the church.
2007-03-05 06:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reverend and his should definitely be invited and yes just send them an invite like you would anyone else. I've never heard of inviting the singer and violinist but if you know them, you might want to invite them. I didn't invite the organist from my wedding since there was a set fee and I felt she was a vendor the same as any other.
2007-03-05 01:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is customary to invite the reverend and his spouse, especially if he will be asked to bless the food for the reception. If the reverend is not your personal pastor, I recommend kindly letting him know that he and his spouse are welcome to attend the reception and send him an invitation anyway. Typically, they will decline if they are not being asked to bless the food and or not personal friends. You do not need to invite the singer and violinist unless the are performing for your reception or are personal friends. Invitations should be mailed to all invited guests including the officiant and any other vendors who are personal friends. Any other vendors who will be providing services at the reception do not need an invitation, but a meal should be provided for them.
2007-03-05 07:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be customary to invite people who were involved with the wedding to the reception. Invitations are a nice touch as some people like to keep them as souvenirs. It shows a lot of class that you mailed invitations to everyone.
2007-03-05 01:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father is a pastor and he has married a lot of people and the only receptions I can recall that he's ever attended are those of our relatives but never of random members. So it is not necessary for you to invite the reverand. They really don't expect it. As for the singer and violinist it is up to you. But you are not obligated to invite them especially if you are paying them for their services. But if you are not paying them, then it would be nice of you to invite them to the reception.
2007-03-05 01:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Justyn's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is YES for all of the above mentioned. You give them an invitation like anyone else and prepare for them in the head count for meals etc.
2007-03-05 01:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes to the reverend and his wife. no to the singer of violinist.
2007-03-05 13:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would think it would be nice to invite the people you have mentioned. When my husband & I got married, we invited the man who married us. After all, they did have a part in your wedding.
2007-03-05 02:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by coconutnoodle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We we do invite these people you have mentioned neither personally asked them to come and join the reception...
2007-03-05 01:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by desiree gersaniba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋