I live with my Mum, her partner, my sister and my boyfriend (we are both early twenties) My mum gives me a hard time all the time and favours my younger sister. My younger sister who is 18 lives at home board free (because she has left school and has no job), free meals, while i have to pay $70 and get no meals. My bf has to pay $70 a wk aswell and we share the same room. I dont earn alot. My mum is always moaning at me and it is driving me nuts. If she isn't her partner is. I want to go flatting but can't really afford it and my boyfriend doesn't want to live with 'strangers'. What can i do? It frustrates me what my mum charges me and my boyfriend to live with my own family in my own family home. However the constant naggin and moaning for usually nothing is really getting to me. HELP any suggestions?
2007-03-04 17:03:20 · 10 answers · asked by Bubby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
theres nothing you can do except ignore her till you save enough money to leave, my mom was the same my sister did whatever she want and could do no wrong and i worked my *** off and got b-itched at all day, till i moved out. try to find roomates, friends or some one you know to share a flat with
2007-03-04 17:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is clearly unfair. You need to tell your boyfriend to get over his living with "strangers" attitude--unless he likes getting mistreated and generally screwed by the people he "knows".
If he's so comfortable there, then YOU find a roommate on your own and leave him with your "mum", lol. That would be a hoot.
You can dump him altogether and get on with your life--on your own and out from under your mother's nagging thumbs and hands held out.
All of roommating is a crap shoot. You can find fabulous roommates, so-so roommates and at least not feel disrespected in your own home. And, you can find lousy roommates and need to save up and look to move elsewhere until you can afford your own place outright.
Do you absolutely HAVE to have your own flat or house? Can it be an apartment, a loft, or even a long-term house sitting gig?
Otherwise, answer a roommate wanted ad, put in an ad of your own. Ask friends if they'ed be interested in striking out to get a flat or house together to share.
Don't give up and don't roll lay down for how you're being treated.
Good luck.
2007-03-04 17:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is easy.
Get a flat and avoid the moaning.
OR
Stay where you are, be grateful that your mum and her partner are so generous with their own living space and are charging you so little (I'm guessing that they use your $70/wk in paying for food that you and your bf eat, and for utilities that you and your b/f use, right?). And, ignore the moaning.
2007-03-04 17:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world is your problem?? You don't like it but you stay--your boy won't move because he is too lazy to move--that's the real reason--strangers is the stupidest excuse I ever heard of. Move out, get a job or two--send him off to work--start cooking your own meals. Don't worry about your sister--worry about yourself---you have acquired a dependent behavior lifestyle--and your mom can't put it any clearer--GET OUT.
2007-03-04 17:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are grown and have a boyfriend and you want both of you to live with your mom for free? Dream on. You and your lazy bf need to get out and find your own place. You can't afford it, then shut up and be happy your mom has not kicked you out for being an ingrate. Your sister is a teenager and your mom is still responsible for her. What your mom does for her has nothing to do with you who should be doing for your self and if any thing you should be helping your mother and sister and not leeching off your mom, with a boyfriend in tow for the freeloading ride.
2007-03-04 17:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well, if the money is the major problem here, I suggest you to get a better job, so you can rent an apartment for yourself and your b/f. I couldn't get along with my mom either, so I left her as early as 20 yrs ago, and I am doing pretty good. I am in Shenzhen, she is in Nanjing. We haven't met ever since.
2007-03-04 17:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by Gone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know how to fly so it is time to leave the nest. If you are adult enough to have a boyfriend living with you, then you should be adult enough to get a flat for yourself and him.
2007-03-04 17:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by kriend 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Then you need to find a better paying job.
2007-03-04 17:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mom shouldn't have let your boyfriend move in with you. Are you crazy? Leave home. get a life.
2007-03-04 17:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
GET A JOB AND MOVE OUT.
2007-03-04 17:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by funnana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋