Seriously at work like people will be talking about there romantic life and I usually dont say anything. mostly because my experience is next to nothing. But if they are talking and happen to say something not rude just like"ha ha thats pretty funny" I usually hear "well you wouldn't know" and to that effect. Why do people think my virginity makes me utterly retarded when it comes to women?
2007-03-04 17:01:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Crud that was "and I say something" sorry :)by the way if anyone asks im 21
2007-03-04 17:02:40 · update #1
ok.. do I care if I'm a virgin. Yeah I do I don't want my first time to be just some crappy experience. Second thing is half the time its girls saying this.. weird huh?
2007-03-04 17:11:10 · update #2
I was a virgin until I was 21. Just because I had never had sex before, didn't mean I was inexperienced... And I used to always get people saying "you wouldn't understand" or "that's above you". You don't need to be an experienced Vet in the sex area to partake in discussions or jokes.
Who cares what other people think or say. You have made a wise decision that a whole lot of other people wish they would have made. How many people have had sex and gotten a girl pregnant or gotten an STD? Wait for the person you love and that loves you. Sex is a whole lot better with someone you care about. Trust me. One night stands are not what they are all cracked up to be.
Keep going down the same path you are goin, no matter how tough it can be at times. It is worth the wait in the end. :-)
2007-03-04 17:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say this is because they are the ones that are ignorant. People should NOT be having these kinds of conversations in public forums. They are crossing private boundary lines that should be drawn at the door of the business.
It's okay for you to be just exactly who you are. Your virginity should be regarded as a precious gift because it is. People do not realize that they are temples of the one who made them and this particular activity is just a physical act to them..It has a spiritual relatedness that they have either given up or never realized in the first place. There are so many reasons God made the rules HE made for our behavior. We are supposed to be the ones with the ability to control ourselves. The world says if it feels good, do it....God says if you wait and do it His way,,,your love making with the one you marry transends into something else....something the office gossipers' will never know or understand.
I had premarital sex in high school. Married at age 18, divorced in 6yrs.Waited 11 yrs before I tried a second marriage and I found out the difference in becoming a christian. My 2nd husband and I were fabulously happy and sex became realized as what it was meant to be like. Read what God says about sex or talk to a good pastor that can help you understand what it means when two people in marriage make love...God made sex and it is good...God made special provisions for the "flowering" of two peoples' souls when they are mated. God made for us to have this experience in a marriage because it is SO unique. It becomes spiritual and soulful to a married couple. The people you are in contact with at work would probably send me to the laughing academy but I speak the truth. This is what I have experienced. I lost that 2nd husband and it devasted me..but God is good and when I am ready I am hoping for an even greater union again.
And yes, NO one has touched me since 1996. I know what that trancended experience feels like and a fast roll in the bed isn't worth it for me..My chastity waits for the marriage bed.
When the staff you work with is in these conversations, quietly exit the group until the topic of conversation changes. And don't forget....Being a virgin is a state of Grace for you. Don't give that up. I will pray for you, that you find kind words to say to others' that they might not "chide" you.
2007-03-04 17:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by Pinkprincess5455 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tend to do that when they suspect you're a virgin. It gives them such pride knowing they've banged someone and the person right next time (who could be a virgin) didn't. It's a human "superior-inferiority" complex which in my opinion, is completely RUDE and disrespectful - virigin or not a virgin, they need to respect you - especially the fact that this is your personal life. Your virginity is your deal and is no one else's business - STAY STRONG - next time they make comments, stand up for yourself and say, "you know what - i feel that you guys are being disrespectful and if you would lay off, i'd really appreciate it." - or in your own words. Don't take crap from them because of your personal life - GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-04 17:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I don't know. I think people are naturally jerks and tend to think if they have even a sliver of experience more than you do, it makes them so much better, especially when it comes to sex. Some of it is because they think you are utterly retarded when you might have more dignity and gentlemanly qualities than they do (I am talking mostly between you and other men here), but also because they think they are big shots. Sometimes they might be virgins, too, but try to act like they aren't just so they can feel better about themselves. When it comes to experience, again especially sex, most people who talk about their experience are liars and make themselves sound good simply to make others feel bad because they are uncomfortable with themselves. Easy as that.
2007-03-04 17:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by Chris C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! guy in oregon,
You are not at work to socialise ,get on with your work,say good morning and good afternoon ,and enjoy your pay at the end of the week.
You sound like a man with integrity .
What happens between a man and a woman should not leave the 4 walls it is private!
One day you will be glad that you waited you will meet someone whom you want to marry and it will be worth the wait.
Take care!
2007-03-04 17:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them. Sometimes people talk about stuff that they have no business talking about at work. Some of us are a bit more modest and would rather save that talk for when we are around the one we love. Just let them know that you Do know what they mean but do not feel that you have to prove anything.
2007-03-04 17:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need to find a way to feel superior to others in some way.
They simply chose your virginity because they think you will be sensitive about it. Next time someone brings it up in a negative way, look at him and say "That reminds me, how's that HIV working out for you?" or something of that nature. They are immature and if you let them bother you, they will always pick on you.
2007-03-04 17:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People are cruel and jealous because they are pigs and cant control themselves. You are unique because in todays world not many can hold out. Let them talk thier talk because one day they will be talking about the STD they picked up or the girl they got pregnant or vice versa. Dont worry.
2007-03-04 17:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fu** 'em. they are just being ignorant. I was once in your position in high school where they would make fun of me because I was virgin. And I am still one. I'm just a bit younger than you. And I'm in college. I'm not even ashame of it. I still have fun with my lady, but it doesn't mean I don't know anything about sex. I have some knowledge. It sucks, I know. Good Luck!
2007-03-04 17:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people just aren't very nice I guess. You shouldn't really care, you're only 21 anyways. I know lots of people who lose it in their mid to late 20s, it's not a big deal.
2007-03-04 17:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋