Searching for others....who have lost their father?

Question

I am 22 years old and my father was killed in a car wreck before I was born, My mother was only 1 month pregnant with me, He never knew my name or anything about me. I am somewhat religous and believe he is looking down and me now, but I honestly don't know how to get over this...I mean you never really " get over" something like this , but how do you grieve for someone you don't know, It's very difficult....anyway I was just looking for someone who maybe is in the same boat. My mother is good and she has always been open to talk about him, but I would rather not ask because it hurts her soo much...I am pretty close with his side of the family ....his mom and brothers and sisters,,,,,,( my grandma and etc.,,,) I want to just find more out about what happend to him ......I don't know......I just want to enjoy my life and not feel sorry for myself anymore..........By the way I do have a WONDERFUL step dad.....who has been here for me since I was 5 so I do feel very blessed

Answer 1

Let me ask you this....if you just delivered a child and you died an hour later, would you want your child to constantly worry and mourn for you? Would you not want your child to be happy and to move on in life? Do you think it would make your dad happy to know that you are still grieving after 22 years??? If you really want to honor your dad, BE HAPPY and move on. He would NEVER want you to be sad!!! Do things like give to charity, or help others in need in his name.....but don't hang on to his death. If you go on living and be happy, that is what your dad would want!!!! :)

Answer 2

I am Very sorry for the loss of your father. Your step dad may not be your real father but he is a good man for stepping into those shoes.My parents divorced when I was 9 and I lived with my father from the age of 13 until I was 19. He Passed away in 2003( when I was 19)due to complications of Renal Cell Carcinoma, kidney cancer.He was diagnosed with it when I was 17.It was difficult watching him get sicker and sicker despite all of the treatments.It was horrible. His death created more drama and resentment in my family due to issues over his estate. I miss him everyday I know that if he were still alive 1/2 of the garbage that has gone on in my family would not have. I even dream about him sometimes. I have a son now and have named him for his grandfather.

Answer 3

I lost my father when I was three, I don't recall that much about him, but I do know that I loved him and he loved me. His cause of death was an overdose of insulin in his system do to being a diabetic ever since then my life as a child was very difficult having had to deal with abusive stepfathers. I'm now 36 this year in April and to this day I still wish my father would've been able to be there for me through out my life and for all of the important events in my life. I miss him very much.

Answer 4

I lost my father when I was 35 yrs. old. I'm sorry for the loss of your father, yet I'm glad God blessed you with a good step dad. Please, to be of help to you about your father, talk with his family members about him. To find out more of what he was like, growing up, stuff like that. One night after my dad had passed, I called his sister, and we talked for four hours abut him. I got to find out about his growing up years, his early adult years, etc. It was great. And, I got to know a little bit more about her too. I hope you do talk with members of his family, and that you get to go on from there feeling better, knowing more about your dad. I wish you the best, take care. God bless you.

Answer 5

well i didnt loose my father as in he died but he might as well have. I havent seen since I can remember, he didn't realy care for me or my sister so i have been fine without him. plus i dont even need him.

Answer 6

check out lossofafather.It's a yahoo group.Good luck:)