Does he like or just want to be friends?

Question

Where I work there's this guy that's really confusing me. He's a team lead over cashiers, so I met him through one of them. We had never talked before and since then have become instant friends. He's very serious about keeping work and personal seperate. When I mentioned that talking/hanging with me mixed the two, he mentioned that he trusted me enough not to mess with his work enviroment. He tells me that he's not allowed to hang out with team members only team leads. But then he messages me to come hang out with him. Everytime I walk past him or anything, he always says something to make me stop and talk to him. He keeps calling me a little nickname he came up with. Everytime I go in on my off day, he stops whatever he's doing and talks to me. He always drops in little hints about himself into the conversations. But then after all of this he keeps telling me the rules and saying that work relationships never work out, statistically anyway. Help!

The other night I ran into him at the pool hall with some of his friends. The first thing he says to me is "What took you so long to get here?" I didnt think anything of it cause he had had a couple beers. When his friend introduced himself, he was like oh so your her. It was all very awkward. Another thing is, they went to eat after. When I got home I had received a message from him wondering why I didnt come to eat. Am I reading too much into this? It is driving me crazy. I can not read this boy. He's not really shy, he's more outgoing, but he does have his moments.

One of our other team lead's over cashiers, who is a very close friend of mine, was talking about starting to date another team memeber. When I asked her about the rules, she told me that the rule actually states that a team lead can date a team memeber as long as they are not their supervisor and it does not interfere with the job. I'm so confused lol.

Answer 1

Yes, as I guy that knows, and from what you're saying, he is showing an active interest in you. However, with the barrier he is setting up, he is making it very clear that work is more important to him right now. Sounds like he does like you, but he's either not going to take it any farther or if he does is going to want to keep it hush hush. If you do get involved it's going to be very casual.

Answer 2

I think he likes you but there is a legitimate concern. People lose their jobs over breeching the pre-set rules of appropriate social relationships at work. Since he's in a position of authority, he's gotta keep it on the DL. Perhaps he feels if you make the first move, he won't be so much breaking the rules. He may just need a little encouragement and reassurance that you won't in fact jeopardize his job by telling people at work about dates or whatever. Go it slow, and let him know that you dig him and are a trustworthy person, and it can develope.

Answer 3

Don't waste your time. Hey is flirting and guys do that from time to time. It's flattering but until he actually ask you out I would not act on it. I have worked with many men and they love to flirt. if he is a mangerial position and can't interpret the rules ( I am sure they are written) How bright is he?

Answer 4

men are the most indesive creatures ever!!!!!!!!!! one minute they know what they want the next they dont.... hot/cold...... i think he likes flirting with you at work... and more so because hes not allowed to do it..... hes gotta be interested cause he flirts with you outside of work..... i say tease him!..... make him crazy..... until he cant take it...... .... that way when he finally goes for it..... you'll know exactly what he wants.

Answer 5

friendship is the first step to love, be friends and then a time ago be lovers,

Answer 6

He's testing the waters with you. He wants to see how far you will go and what you will do to be with him. Once you showed him your interested, he thanks he has you.