i have social anxiety so bad that i wont even visit my dying grandpa?

Question

it hurts me more than my grandpa that i cant go see him, , iv told my doctor that i have this problem, but hey just ignore me and act like im just looking for drugs, id rather be addicted to drugs than live the live that i living right now, i dont know what to do

Answer 1

Social anxiety is real and can be treated find another Doctor if possible,maybe then you can get some help.do not give up because one Doctor won't hear your problem.Best of luck.

Answer 2

Social anxiety can cause these feelings.
http://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/ds...

Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/cognitive_b... worked best for me. I suffered from social anxiety for over 15 years. I've tried meds, individual therapy, and group therapy and studied psychology for 10 years, as a profession, but also with the hope to cure myself.

Depending on your comfort level, you could go to a psychologist that practices CBT and specializes in anxiety disorders, seek a group therapy, or create one. Usually those that do attend the group therapy are a bit more high functioning because as you know, it can be difficult to speak in a group.

Another idea is to see if there are any local research studies being conducted that you could participate in.

The program that finally worked the best for me is this one: http://www.socialanxiety.us/findinghelp.... and I was lucky enough to have a structured behavioral group to go along with it. Sometimes the people that actually attend this program come back home and form groups.

Any questions, let me know ... I can't tell you how much this has improved my life!

Answer 3

You can order meds online without a prescription. If your Dr won't help than you should try other avenues such as a new Dr or getting them online. There is a good chance the medication you need is not one the Dr is getting a kickback from so you'll get the medication which will put the most cash is his pocket. I had a stupid Dr attempt to put me on anti-depressents for short-term anxiety. I am moving to another country, I am not depressed. I was lucky to locate a Dr who was willing to write me a low dose of Xanax for the next few month. I understand your stress over this. I am sorry.

Answer 4

is it possible that your diet is bad? how is your fitness level? possible posture problems? some people are sensitive to problems that others don't have. how are you sleeping? do you snore? possible vitamin deficiencies/surpluses? is something screwing with your immune system? (allergies, tooth decay, etc.) try taking ice cold showers for 20 seconds at the end of your regular hot showers. it's a controllable stress and it exercises the glands. you can email me if you want. i have made some progress myself with diet and fitness, stress reduction.

you should go see him. it'll probably make you cry, which could be a little upsetting for him I guess. it's okay; grandpas are tough.

obviously you have to fight these things, but on the other hand, constant stress can break you down. use a broad-spectrum approach; do everything you can at once that might help.

Answer 5

Whatever you have seems the worst. There is no comparison. I can tell you that 10-20% of ppl with bipolar kill themselves, so I'd say it isn't at all an easy illness. Actually, I know it isn't since I have it. But, you seem to be struggling, too. Are you seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist for medications that can help? If not, you should step forward and help yourself.

Answer 6

I suffered from something very similar to that. For me, the solution was to remind myself that there really wasn't anything out there that would hurt me. My logical mind knew that going to the grocery store, or to visit my mother would not hurt me. But the very-near to terror that I felt nearly collapsed my universe.
I had to win over this self-imposed fear. I lived alone, the business I worked for went out of business, and I certainly could not get the grocery store to come to me. I sought the help of a psychiatrist, but, unable to describe my symptoms well, he dismissed me, which blocked me from any further treatment.
It would take days for me to convince myself to leave the apartment and walk to the grocery store. If someone walked near me on the grocery isle, I felt the terror physically. Since I was alone, though, I had no choice but to at least do what would keep me alive.
The more I left my apartment, the more tasks I made myself do, the more I was able to do. When I finally said something about this to a trusted friend, he encouraged me to continue challenging myself as I had been. He told me what I already knew: the fear was internal, the outdoors, or the store, or friends houses, would not harm me. This started in 1970. It took work, but I kept working on myself, over and over.
Reminding myself that no harm would come to me, I got better and better at just heading out to where I needed to go. I got jobs. I shopped. I visited friends. Like a cut that heals into a scar, I never gave up.
Yup, there were times I had to fight hard just to put one foot in front of the other; times I put off going to the store for a few days (but I didn't go without proper nutrition.) I still feel a bit of Adrenalin when I have to go some place new. Now I can tell myself, "Oh, pooh! Get out the door, get it done." I can fight the fear, even ignore it now. I can live my life.
Just today I had a special event where there were lots of people I didn't know around. I recently moved to a new state, and my nephews have been driving me to places until I knew the way. They couldn't take me to this place, so I had to drive to a place I've only been once before.
For two days before hand, my inner voice, and my body were trying to talk me out of going. But this was important to me, so I didn't let the fear destroy my plans. I had a great time, and when I got lost on the way back home, I didn't have any fear. I just thought out the problem, and solved it. It became an adventure! You can do this, too.
Don't let your fear come between your grandpa and you.
Also, keep talking to your doctors, and ask for a counselor. They are better trained for this kind of thing than physicians are. And if you need a medicine to start you off, they can recommend a psychiatrist who can prescribe it for you. I wish you well, and will send you prayers for your success.

Answer 7

have you ever had a drug problem? is that why they won't listen? Go to a new doctor and explain what you told us above about the anxiety in social situations. There are very good meds for this and they are not drugs that get you high or down. Paxil is one very good one for social anxiety.

Answer 8

Social anxiety can put a damper on life.You need to find ways to develop your self esteem,self worth and self confidance.But it takes time and you need a professional in mental health to guide you along the way.If you are not satisfied with your family doctor,please visit a Mental Health Clinic in your area..My prayers are with your grandpa.

Answer 9

hullo
if your problem is with your sick grand father only,then it is not a social anxiety or phobia,it is just inability to face stressful events or seeing a beloved dying,it is called adjustment disorder ,and in your condition is stemmed from the fear of death,you can seek a psychologist to work things over.

Dr solo

Answer 10

anxiety comes from fear of something try to have someone go with you for support gramps won't care. you are there and thats all that matters, I've seen drug addicts and no you don't want to live like that.