I started talking to this guy in August of 06, and we hit it off right away. We talked nearly every night, and there was a strong connection between us immediately. After a couple of months of chatting, we expressed attraction to each other, and all was good.
We spent an amazing holiday together (Thanksgiving), I went to celebrate with him because otherwise he'd be alone and I told him I wouldn't allow it. It was wonderful. However, we fell suddenly out of contact because the s**t hit the fan in his personal life, so I let him deal on his own.
Now, a week ago we spent 6 hours on the phone. He spent most of the time telling me how amazing I am, and how he was scared to lose me from his life because of the BS. He admitted to feeling as strongly about the situation as I have been feeling. Yet, now I'm scared he doesn't want to be with me. How does that make sense? I tell myself it isn't easy for guys to say those things so outright, but it's no real comfort. What to do???
2007-03-04 16:50:06 · 6 answers · asked by Lynn G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like I said, it doesn't make any sense for me to be so worried. Where I'm at, is that I think he really could be the one I'm looking for, but despite his openness, I can't seem to get to the point to tell him anything about what I really think... I've had a couple bad situations before, with falling too hard, and so has he, so I know we're both scared about the whole thing... I just don't know much of what to do, I don't know how honest I can be without scaring him away, or putting myself in a place where it's gonna hurt too much.
He's not the kind of guy who likes to admit to being vulnerable, and he doesn't like to ask for help. I'm much the same way. I think it's because we've both been hurt. At the same time though, I know that if he doesn't allow himself to depend on me, I won't be able to depend on him... any suggestions??
2007-03-04 17:50:14 · update #1
I think maybe you are a little scared off by the snot hitting the fan, so to speak, and maybe turned off that he did not turn to you for help with his personal life. Being shut out at that stage, where you had brought yourself closer to him, has been harmful to your relationship with him. That must be addressed before you get back to where you once were. It might also take some time to build trust that there won't be anymore shutting out.
2007-03-04 16:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by fromorto12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys are making the relationship going to fast. You should slow down and making talk less on the phone. Now are in modern times, you should communicate by texting or email instead of wasting 6 hours a day on the phone. BTW, your phone must be feeling real hot after every conversation.
2007-03-05 00:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him another chance, Honey. He could be the man for you. His troubles are over and he realized you're the one for him.
2007-03-05 00:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be scared that he dosen't want to be with you if he just told you how much he cares for you.I don't understand
2007-03-05 00:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a chick who thinks she is too hot,you need to come back to earth princess
2007-03-05 00:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Chris L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to him and then make any further decesion;
2007-03-05 00:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Khurram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋