when can a baby/ toddler star potty training?

Question

My daughter is well over 2 now and will be 3 in 4 months and yet I can't seem to get her to go potty in the toilet. I've tried buying stuff like Dora seats and pull ups to attract her attention and she still does it in her diaper. Sometimes I catch her trying to go and quickly lift her off to the restroom and she simply won't go like she's afraid to release or something. Her younger sister is 16 months and I'm really trying to stop her as I am due to have my third baby in 3 months and hope not to be dealing with three kids in diapers. Do any of you kind and expert moms know how I can encourage her not to go in her diapers? Pls. help!

Answer 1

I recommend a book calle Potty Training Your Baby by Katie Van Pelt and Potty Train Your Child in Just One Day by Teri Crane.

I used the first book with my 6 year old. She did okay. Due to some stress issues and it being my first time at potty training, she did not finish training until she was 3. She was successful most of the time at 2, but would sometimes get stressed and that would cause accidents. She stopped having accidents at 3.

The one day training was used with my 4-year-old when she was 2 and she's never had an accident (excluding when sick).

I also read a lot of potty books with the girls before and during training that helped them get a good idea of what was going on. Just go to your local library and tell them you need potty books. Most kids sections have TONS.

I would also suggest if you're severely stressed, to let someone else potty train your daughter. My oldest daughter and I both have anxiety disorders, which made potty training difficult for both of us. It was a long, stressed out period. But my mom potty trained my 2nd daughter for me. Often, when it's a close adult who is neutral, the child reacts better because they're not worried about letting Mommy/Daddy down. There is no shame in letting someone else do it, if it will make it a nicer experience for your child. The last thing you want is for your daughter to get stressed on the subject, or the training could backfire.

Answer 2

I guess my oldest was really easy to train. I would sit on the seat as far back as possible then put her between my legs, so she felt safe. Or I would take her with me and put her beside me -- or across from me on her own potty with a book and we would act like we were having a "poop party" I know it sounds weird. I started with her when she was 18-24 mos. And every time she went I acted like it was the most wonderful thing on earth, which it was. If she had an accident, I would say "oh dear, we missed" and it somehow worked. I didn't do pullups or diapers at night. I was really determined I think. and she had an interest. I have my 2nd daughter who is now 15 mos, she already has an interest in using and has done it, not consistently but at least she's familiar and does want to, I think because she sees me and her sister (7yr old) use the potty. Stop putting her in diapers PERIOD. Buy both the girls a little potty, you don't need the $30 singing potty, If I were a kid that would freak me out. The signs that told me they are ready is when they'd wake up with dry diapers. I know it's a lot of work, and you're probably tired. But keep with it. Make a little bucket of potty pops and have it filled with dum dum pops and every time she uses let her pick one out. Try some of these things, and remember don't spank it reverses what you are trying to do. Good luck

Answer 3

She might be afraid of the toilet, or more likely just doesn't know how to relax and GO. The first few times it is accident. What I did with mine was put them on a lil potty in front of tv - at the time they watched this purple dinosaur named Barney [don't know if that's still or if you are laughing hysterically at me by now] and they just sat there and enjoyed the show, and whaddaya know after a few days there was something in the potty when they stood up, so I gave them an m'n'm. We did this till they'd had quite a number of these accidents, then I started taking them to their potty at intervals. They were both trained a few months before they turned 3, although they still wore pullups when they went to nursery or when we were traveling. There are books out about potty training in a day, and I don't know what they are about, but you might want to try them. Once she gets the idea, if she is resistant, you might want to not buy her bigger diapers and just tell her she is too big for diapers and that's why they are so tight on her. I have had a number of friends do that and their child quickly started using the potty. Sometimes it helps to put the kid in undies so they can feel the wetness, although I didn't do that until they were sort of far along!

Answer 4

Many parents are unsure about when to start toilet teaching or potty training. Not all kids are ready at the same age, so it's important to watch your child for signs of readiness, such as stopping an activity for a few seconds or clutching his or her diaper.

Most children begin to show these signs between 18 and 24 months, although some may be ready earlier or later than that. And boys often start later and take longer to learn to use the potty than girls.

Instead of using age as a readiness indicator, look for other signs that your child may be ready to start heading for the potty, such as the ability to:

follow simple instructions
understand words about the toileting process
control the muscles responsible for elimination
verbally express a need to go
keep a diaper dry for 2 hours or more
get to the potty, sit on it, and then get off the potty
pull down diapers, disposable training pants, or underpants
show an interest in using the potty or wearing underpants

Answer 5

I don't know what kind of personality your daughter has but some kids do not like the fact that they are pressured. If it is stressing you out and her, lay off for a week or month .Let her go when she wants. When you know she is relaxed about it, start back up again. Pick a week where you are not going anywhere. Pullups did not work for me. Dear son just peed in them pure laziness. I bought training pants from target, a good steamer and vinegar and water handy. these are the things we did for rewards and books and DVD:
Potty Power DVD
Once upon a potty book
Potty Chart. We filled the chart with stickers. When he filled up, he received a prize.
Potty stickers. i bought really cool stickers and he only received the sticker when he went potty and only 1.
I have noticed when moms desperately want their kids to be potty trained, it causes the opposite effect on kids. Give her some space. Make sure she has a stool to climb up or her potty seat. I also have toys, fun books in the bathroom so we sit and sit and read stories. Good luck.

Answer 6

Instant gratification worked well for my daughter. She's nearly 2 1/2 and has been trained since January, but still has some accidents (oh well). I kept a jar of smarties (m & m's in the states) by the toilet. At first, she got one just for sitting on the potty, which I put her on at least every hour. Then once she was comfortable going to the potty, she got a smartie for each pee, 2 for #2. That really seemed to work, as she was out of diapers in about a week after starting. Good Luck!

Answer 7

I had problems with potty training my daughter. No matter what I would do she wouldn't want to go on the potty. After months of trying to hit or miss the potty I change a couple of things...1. I took all diapers away and gave her big girl panties..2. When I knew she had to go I made her sit there on the potty until she went and 3. When she had an accident she had to clean it and herself up...She didn't like any of the new rules and she used the potty after she figured out she didn't like to be dirty and clean herself up. Worked great! Good luck with the potty training.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

My daughter is 16 months and asks to go potty . Everytime I noticed see was going I'd ask her if she had to go potty she has caught on now and will ask when she needs to go.. She has the fisher price potty seat that plays music when she goes so when I hear it play I clap for her and tell her she is a good girl.

Answer 10

it's time to potty train already, try showing her that mommy uses the toilet and encourage her with giving her cookies or cup cakes when she goes in the potty. also cheer her on and say that shes a big girl now, but don't scare her or she might be afraid to go in the potty again.