my boyfriend and i broke up almost 2 and half months ago. Ive been going out with friends to nightclubs and having a lot of fun. I know that my boyfriend and i werent right for each other. Now i know that i want a boyfriend again but i go out and i dont see ANYONE that interests me at all. I've picked up guys and danced with them but it never leads anywhere because i dont see any potential or i think they arent my type. Im not unattractive and i am young and have a lot of fun but i never seem to attract the right guys. Are my standards too high or am i looking in the wrong place?
2007-03-04 16:29:01 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing is wrong. You are becoming more selective as you gain experience. You have a very clear idea what you want and that is good. Don't be in a rush to find someone new. Someone great will find you.
2007-03-04 16:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're looking in the wrong places. The majority of guys in a nightclub are just looking for a good time. Either just to have fun while he's there or a little fun later on. First step, you must be patient, but don't give up hope. I say join some sort of activity groupin your area: like a salsa dancing class, community theatre, book club, or something less nerdy. If you're doing something you're interested in 1) you might forget about not having a man but instead having fun 2) if you happen to meet a guy there, at least you have some sort of common interest. Just try not to get frusterated and just have fun.
2007-03-05 00:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by lilbassdude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is likely nothing wrong with you -
Take your time - Think about what you want out of a relationship right now in your life. When you figure out what you want you can go hang out where those type of men are likely to be.
Do not fall into the trap of thinking that without a partner you aren't worth somthing - That without a boyfriend you are half a person etc.
Relax and realise that things tend to happen when you don't push - That isn't to say you shouldn't be having fun You should and part of having fun is going out without expectation.
Oh the other thing is what do you like and want - go hang out with like minded people
As to your standards - Unless your waiting for Mr. Perfect then probably not . There is no perfect guy or girl . I don't know about you but I would not want to date a perfect girl
Any way they are your standards - would you rather comprimise and be unhappy for the rest of your life or would you rather have a realistic view of what you want and go have fun with your friends until you find that ?
2007-03-05 00:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing with you. It doesnt sound as though you are completely over your ex. Maybe this is why no other guy interests you. Yes prhapes you are looking in the wrong place. No your standards are not too high. Everyone has a right to find the right man for them. Enjoy life the right man will come along eventally and when he does you will know. So just enjoy going out and being single until this happens!!!!!
2007-03-05 00:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kiara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nightclubs, young and attractive you state.
Lets see, in the early 80's there was this " I am special " thing nearly everyone was taught, and they believed it.
Now, the world is more diversed and not everyone is "special".
Don't get me wrong, its good to have high standards, but you may need to look at a person more closely.
They may not be the "hottie" you are looking for, they may not dance well, they may not even have the best job out there. But try talking more to a person, does it sound like they are interested in you , for you, and not just a night. Could they provide for you in the future.
Set your sights ahead , not what you see dancing in front of you.
2007-03-05 00:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by rktavi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best advise to you is to quit looking for a guy. The more you look the harder and more slim the pickings get. Just enjoy your life and have fun. Date several guys.. dont tie yourself down to one or you will never find the "right" guy. If you dont taste everything on the buffet you wont know which foods are sweet, sour or greasy. Try them all but in moderation. Eventually in the time that you are having fun and not really looking the right guy will come along.
2007-03-05 00:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people compare future potential mates to their past mates. If this is what you are doing, you need to find a way to stop, or not let it affect your judgement. If you are comparing every guy you see to your last, no guy will ever be good enough. If you truly want another boyfriend, let your guard down and see where it goes with one of the guys you pick up at the club.
2007-03-05 00:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could be looking in all the wrong places give it time mr right will come along when god intends him to.try other places to meet people not just bars or night clubs try a hobby club or join a gym or even church bars and night clubs always seem to be the traditional way to go try something new for a change and don't worry so much hes out there somwhere. slow down take a step back and refocus yourself you may be suprised what you feel and learn. you don't always have a man in your life.
2007-03-05 00:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by alice k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do your own thing until you come across a good guy. I know how you feel, after I got out of my 4 year relationship, I didn't really like another girl for almost 2 years. I mean i would date but just not interested, then one day BAM I fell for a girl. So strange.
2007-03-05 00:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding a nice guy, nomatter where u look, is hard to find.
But, the bar scene just complicates things more...because
people get drunk..and lose thier good judgement..and may
have sex with that person that same night, or to soon..before
you even know them...for who they TRULY are. Not for what
they want u to see. Take your time....ther'es nothing wrong with
being picky. Just stand back and get to know them .....AND
don't ever lower your standards, or "settle" because your lonely.
2007-03-05 00:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋