My girlfriend just broke up with me 2 days ago. We were seeing each other for 2 1/2 years. Everything was going great and I thought the relationship was ok. We have had a long distance relationship where we would see each other on the weekends. There was a slight jealousy problem on my part, but it is something I could fix. She told me that she was unhappy and that our relationship was coasting. we had a small argument the week before about the jealousy thing, she started crying, and her friends were all there. Most of the time when she would go out with all of her friends which was like 3 times a year i was immature and would argue ending up in her crying. This was part of the reason why she broke up with me. The other was the distance of driving 2 1/2 hours each way. These past few days i realize these mistakes and want to show her that i can correct them. I have a feeling that her friends influenced her in the decision. What can I do to get her back?
2007-03-04 16:23:10 · 15 answers · asked by Clark K. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a woman, I know that female friends can often be persuasive when it comes to relationship decisions. That is exactly why I never share any problems regarding my relationships with my friends. They never remember the good things and hold on for dear life to anything negative. We all have our flaws and it sounds like you can openly admit yours. That's a great first step. If you've promised her you would work on your flaws in the past and have failed to hold up that promise, she may not be willing to change her mind. If this isn't the case, ask her to look inside her own heart and make the decision based on her own feelings, and not based on what her friends think she should do. If they are her true friends they will respect her for whatever path she chooses. If not, they are not worth having as friends.
The long-distance could be making her feel lonely. Honestly, she may have met someone more accessible and felt she needed to end your relationship before pursuing it. If she is feeling that way, and you are not in a position to change that distance, than I'd say that if you really care about her you would want her to be in a relationship that meets her needs.
2007-03-04 16:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by idontloveyoufup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 20:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude. You seriously need to get a grip with your emotions. I know you love her, but respect is part of the love game. Best thing to do is write her a short letter (three short paragraphs tops) apologizing and explaining that you haven't learned to respect her, the way you should and will learn from this experience. Say you hope to hear from her soon and then leave her alone. Don't call her, if she wants to talk to you, she will call you. I suggest you try to concentrate on school or your employment and making a better you. If she comes back great, if not learn from this.
The bad part is this. It was probably more than her friends and your Jealousy. She is far away and guys are getting shots at her all week and you are elsewhere. That is reality and don't let it kick you in the rear. Because you may find out there is somebody else and you don't want to look dumbfounded when you find out. Be smart, be cool, and keep your emotions in check. Men are creatures of logic. Be logical.
2007-03-04 16:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a long distance relationship is tricky ,first you are not together enough girls like to be held a lot and you being away she feels lonely .her friends may have influenced her but you shouldnt say anything to her like that because most of the time girls wll dump men for girlfriends because they are around more .that will get her mad at you for talking about her friends, especially if you dont know for sure you should start with sending her flowers to her house or school or work not knowing how old she is that may work and then see what happens and you can go from there,put in the note you want to fix things good luck. you sound sincere dont play games with her just be honest if she gets back to you.
2007-03-04 16:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by freeflow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Clark
Why do you want to go after someone..you are the problem.. you have insecurities and jealousy...learn to trust her and accept her and respect her.. If you are honorable men/gentleman I would wait for a few days.. cool off and apology to her in front of her friends which you hurt her feelings and embarrassed and humiliated. If I were you I would discuss any personal issues with her I would discuss with private place.. I am sure you felt bad.. I am also sure that you are a great gentleman can accept the mistakes and learn not to make from past mistakes.. wait and write a note, and be sincere about it and promise to discuss any issues, concerns and worries more openly but in private places.. let me know.. do not sent red roses... just a sincere,honest hand written letter to her and her friends can forgive you.. maybe fresh flowers not fancy OK,, I believe you can do it..
2007-03-04 16:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by fidalgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.
Long distance relationships make it hard to trust someone. That's why I'd avoid them. If she said the relationship was "coasting" then she might've become bored with it. She most likely listened to her friends and may have chosen someone else. So you're beating a dead horse now. Best thing to do is to move on.
2007-03-04 16:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would be unable to "get" her to open as much as you. she will open up if she feels gentle - yet sounds to me such as you adult men have some subject concerns that are complicating your courting. the advice i could supply is - don't be a million) too desperate, or 2) too pushy. basically be your self, rejoice together with her - yet don't be throughout her in any way. ok, she has this loopy concept which you basically decide for her for intercourse; properly, do no longer elevate intercourse in any respect, shop your palms to your self, and revel interior the communication. i'm no longer in all hazard valuable what her problem is - i are not getting it how can a woman be with somebody for 2 years, and be confident that this guy or woman is basically together with her because of the fact of intercourse; that's basically stupid. It sounds to me like she, herself, does not be responsive to what she needs - and it rather is style of a volatile difficulty for you, as you may desire to get your heart broken very genuinely. basically be careful, ok. good success.
2016-09-30 05:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by barnell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, um, truthfully, theres not alot, BUT if ur really serious, what you mite b able to do is something really romantic for example maybe drive over there unexpected and sing ur guyses favorite song next to her window so the whole nieghborhood can hear and then ask for her back, or do something that she wouldnt expect u to do, that takes her by suprise but gets the message that u would do anything to get her bak,
2007-03-04 16:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by aggiegrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best advice i can give is spill ur heart to her....me and my bf have been together for 2 1/2 yrs as well, and one day he broke up with me for no reason and i kept telling him i love him and i miss him and eventually we got back together. it took a month...but it worked...also i prayed alot. and i worked out and dressed better and told him these guys were talkin to me...lol...u get the idea.
2007-03-04 16:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule number one: never try to get her back. You will seem desperate and she will push away from you.
Rule number two: act as if you have moved on. Sometimes girls break off with their boyfriends so that they can have the "power". Don't give it to her.
2007-03-04 16:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by IAmDamon1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋