so i mentioned something to my boyfriends sister in law about her now husband.. we were talking and she told me that they were going to divorce 2 years ago and me being a little tipsy said oh was it about that girl..and she asked me how i knew and i didnt metion anything but that i knew who she was ..she was trying to get things out of me but i didnt say anything..also i asked her not to mention it and she did..soo anyways my boyfriends brother is now very rude to me and doesnt talk to me at all..before he did and now he doesnt because his wife said something..should i ask him why he's being so rude or should i leave it alone..it gets to me cuz he's really rude to me ..there will be a room full of his family and he'll say hi to them but he wont say anything to me or wont even say hi...what should i do??
2007-03-04 16:14:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should learn to shut your mouth, accept that there are consequences for your actions, and stop excusing your behaviour on drink. You're responsible for what you do just as he is responsible for what he does. Live with it.
2007-03-04 16:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesson learned. Do not EVER get involved in someone elses marriage problems. What is really funny is that your very minor accurate comment has become more important to them the actual incidence and other core problems they have/had. It is a normal defect to blame shift. I also suspect this is not the first time you have made a comment or gossiped.
As far as the guy not saying hi, nothing you can do, just accept it. I would suggest you try to avoid contact with them for a few months. Then when you do tell your boyfriend that if someone wants to make you feel uncomfortable, then you will quietly leave 5 minutes later. No drama, if you are not welcome leave. Again you had nothing to do with thier problems, so you DO NOT accept the blame. Double check if you have done anything else that might be causing the problem.
2007-03-05 00:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Gatsby216 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything, if or if not you actually said anything that is a relationship doomed to fail if she blabs stuff like that. I would not try to get out of it, because it might do the opposite and dig yourself deeper. You don't speak to him, if he doesn't want to grow up and act like an adult then don't make any more of an effort then you want. I dislike my husbands mother, and that is being nice, she is ugh anyways, when I have to talk to her I do, otherwise I don't say anything and she doesn't either. You don't have to be best friends with him, you are dating your boyfriend, and unless it is causing issues between you and him then I wouldn't let it bother you. Be the bigger person and not worry about it.
2007-03-05 00:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you cant be friends with everybody now can you.
Theres not much you can do here. This is a case where you had your nose into someone elses business and it pissed them off.
Maybe it will blow over with time or maybe it wont. Some people never forgive so only time will tell
2007-03-05 00:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should haven't seid anything at all to begin with this is a private matter between your bfs bro. and his wife. your boyfreinds bro talked to you in confidence about that matter expecting you to be good enough not to talk about it. you probably have lost his trust in you and not to mention if your bf found out about it would create problims there too. try to apologize to him for your slip of the tongue so to speak. it might take time but he'll probably not confide in you again
2007-03-05 00:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by alice k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can find another boyfriend. You don't want to be having problems like that for the rest of your life.
Or at least you can tell your boyfriend that you don't feel comfortable at his family gatherings and stay away from them.
2007-03-05 00:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're the type who can't be trusted to keep her mouth shut when tipsy.Were you tipsy when you wrote your question?People like you keep trouble stirred up in families.
2007-03-05 00:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by Morningstar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like you brought something up that was really none of your business anyway. Maybe they managed to smooth things out and you just screwed it up. Good job.
2007-03-05 00:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by m k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, wut can u do really? i mean, all u can do is be nice to him, and pretend you have no idea y he is mad at u, because for the most part, u dont! :) there is an old friend of mine, that i basically told her to go away, and now she ignores me, and i just smile so SHE is the one that looks nasty not me, if u ignore him, ur no better, not to put down ur brother in law, but seriously, just say hi and be curt, no need to be oversensitive
2007-03-05 00:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by aggiegrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and get a quiet moment away from everyone with the brother, apologize and leave it alone.
2007-03-05 00:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by robot_hooker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋