Ok im a young mother of two boys. My youngest is 2 months old. I got pregnant with him when my oldest was only 4 months. Here lately ive been thinking about another one....I dont know why! My husband and I talked about having another one in a few years, but i dont know if i wanna wait that long. I love children period! We want to try for a girl this time. I know for a fact he isnt gonna want another so soon, but i do! I need to convince myself to just forget about it right now! What should I do? Im to afraid to talk to him about it!
2007-03-04 16:03:23 · 7 answers · asked by nici22333 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
wow, you remind me of myself. just worry
about keeping your sons happy and healthy
wait till you get through the terrible twos.
2007-03-04 16:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, please slow down and concentrate on raising your sons for the moment. I love children, too, the more the merrier, but the little critters are expensive, and you are likely to be so drained from the responsilbilites of parenting, you won't have time to enjoy being a lover and wife. You have already indicated that your husband is not ready to add another child to your family, and there's no guarantee the third child will be that little girl you're dreaming of. Let's get the two little boys up and running, make a great marriage, and the next baby will come when the time is right. If you're afraid to talk about it now, the time is clearly not right. You already know this in your heart of hearts. Just relax and be thankful for your little boys. Enjoy them. More importantly, enjoy your role as a wife and partner to your husband. You don't want to bring a third child into your world who might even be resented at this time. Stay in the moment. Savor each one. Do some things for yourself! Take a class. Paint. Knit. Basketweave. Write short stories. Scrapbook that wonderful family . Pop some corn and snuggle up with the three men in your life. I have a feeling the other baby will come, and your husband will be the first to tell you when the time is right.
2007-03-04 16:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to realize is babies need a whole lot of attention so if you are paying attention to one the other may feel neglected. There is nothing wrong with loving kids, but think of all the sleep you'll need just to do everything you need to do for them during the day and having babies right on top of each other like that increases your chances of a nervous breakdown!!!
Think of all that plus you aren't being very considerate of your husbands feelings by trying to go against his wishes because he has a say in what happens too!!!
2007-03-04 16:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by mya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, I think you need to relax and enjoy the time with your children right now. You will miss so much of their lives and this is the time they need you the most. They are very dependent upon you for everything and you need to be there for them. I would wait like your husband said. You need to repsect that and you need to give your body a rest. How would you feel if your husband wanted another one right away and you did not. he did not say he did not want anymore, he said to give it a little time. I think in the long run, you will be able to appreciate that decision. Right now you have the time to give that your children need. With a new baby, although your love will not be in doubt, the time for your other children simply will not be there.
2007-03-04 18:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by dj_jonesd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely talk to your husband. As you know having a child isn't easy and the best thing for you to do would be to talk it out with him, but I think you know that. I think if you are ready then you should convince him of that and explain to him why you think it would be a good idea to go ahead and have another baby. Then go to the doctor to make sure everything is okay and then proceed...but be sure you talk to your husband first before you consider anything else. Good luck!
2007-03-04 16:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anamika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want another one so soon? Perhaps your husband is feeling the financial strain of having children. I'd wait a while. Enjoy the children you already have. As long as he knows your feelings, I don't think there is any good that can come of reiterating how you feel.
2007-03-04 16:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by SocialWorks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body needs to rebuild itself , so it is at its best for another pregnancy. It is not healthy for you or the baby to be pregnant back to back as your body gets worn down .It takes a lot of nutrients, stamina to produce a child. To take the time until your next you will just be giving "her" hopefully the best environment to be concieved and carried in. Giving her the best chance at a very healthy life. Take your time...Enjoy your children and plan for the next as the perfect situation possible :-)
2007-03-04 17:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by Julie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋