can you please help me?

Question

how can i keep thinking positive thoughts and be happier!? i try soooo hard but still cant get it right.

Answer 1

Personal experience sweetie.
My life has sucked for as long as I can remember and it's just started getting better, but for so long I was miserable. I would do what I had to (not well) and come home and lock myself in the room. Not because I was tired or anything, but because I knew if I came out I would snap at someone and take out my pain and misery on them.
First you need to figure out what is causing your negative thoughts and that can be hard. I finally crashed when I realised that my dad was abusing me, I was kind of blocking it. Once I realised it I was able to deal. I went to a doctor and he put me on antidepressants. The definitely help with mood swings, but they just put me on a indifferent plane. I'm not happy or sad I'm just there.
The real way for me to be happy is for me to get out and do things. I have a job that I love. I work at a paediatric dental office where I help children and handicapped patients all day long, and I'm good with them and feel needed there. It's a lot of work but I love it. Then when I come home I fight the urge to just lay down and do nothing. I cook dinner, I clean the kitchen, I do laundry, I do my makeup (to the nines) and go out with friends. I read a good book. I do something that makes me happy, most of the time it's taking care of someone I love but sometimes I just take care of me. It's not always a good day but it's getting better.
It's not always a psychological thing, sometimes you need help from medication, but for me it was worth it. Talk to a doctor and look into it. And if you ever need anyone to talk to I'm always here for you. I've been there and I'm still going through it. Day by day.
Just don't do anything stupid.

Answer 2

Sometimes it IS hard to stay positive if you're going through rough times. I think some of the imporstant things you can do are: surround yourself with POSITIVE people, these are the people with humor, a good outlook on life, caring uplifting people. If you don't know people like this ..FIND some!! Remember everyday to be thankful for all the things you have. No matter what kind of bad day you have, I'm pretty darn sure that there are more good things in your life than bad. Find some uplifting music that makes you feel better and play that when you're down. STAY in the positive...instead of being "sure this won't work out for you" think that "there's a heck of a good chance this WILL work for you."
If this has been a recent problem for you and you just can't pull out of your "funk" get some help, you could be suffering from a chemical imbalance that won't LET you be happy.
PRAYER helps also, let's you know you're not alone!

Good luck., I wish you MUCH happiness VERY soon!!

Answer 3

The secret is this---you know when you are having a negative thought (I'm so depressed or I am ugly, fat, whatever) you at that point don't think of that response, you just change your mind to think of anything else. It doesn't have to be a wonderful thought like, "oh isn't that just pretty" or "It's is really a nice day" just anything else. It is really hard to do but, it can be done and if you do this enough then you can eliminate all of the really bad down's that come along. Life is a rollercoaster after all and the highs also come with the lows. I am bipolar and have a hard time with the lows but I found out that by shutting out all of the lows (blocking them all by switching my thinking) I also shut down all emotion and lost all of my highs too. Be careful what you wish for and just be happy to be alive. What you are searching for is just sitting in your future wating for you to be ready to receive it. Please just dont dwell on the unhappy and wait / reach for the happy. It will come to you. I know that this sounds trite but I truly believe this. Try www.stresscenter.com this program is worth every penny and it truly does help.

Answer 4

Hehe! I'm good at this!!

Step 1) SMILE no matter what! When you smile, you trick your body into thinking it is happy, and you will feel ten times better! :D Not only that, but smiling uses less muscles than frowning, and you will giggle at things that would have upset you before!

Step 2) When something goes wrong, just KNOW that it will be better! Look at things in a better way! If you are stuck in traffic, use this as an oppertunity to look around and see all there is to see! Or, if you fail a test or get a bad grade, use it as a lesson! Tell yourself that you WILL do better next time, and think about what you did wrong, and change it for the next test!

Step 3) Take the negative, yucky words and phrases out of your vocab! I know this sounds stupid, but it works! Don't let yourself say that something will never happen, or I'll never get out of this store, the line is way too long! Because in reality, its not like the store is going to shut down and lock you inside... :D that made me giggle!

YAY!

~*~StardustFaerie24~*~

Answer 5

For a lot of us, this takes diligent practice, because we never really learned it in the first place.
This is what I had to do - I made a list everyday of 25 things I was grateful for, at the end of the night. Not big stuff, things like "someone called me today to say hi" (there are a lot of people who have no one in thier lives) I had enough money to buy milk and coffee. The air is crisp and feels good against my skin. I have a coat that is warm enough,, etc

See, the point is, it forces you to look for good things through out the day.
I do this every day, and have for the last three years. It gets much easier, and will help you change how you feel about yourself, the people in your life, and the world. But it takes a lot of practice.
Good Luck. Try it, it is worth it.

Answer 6

There is nothing like ACCOMPLISHMENT and HELPING OTHERS to feel happy. Get on a strict excercise program to feel proud of yourself, read a book you think is too hard to read, volunteer at a place that feeds the poor, do ten things a day for people without looking for praise. Do not get down on yourself....simply take steps everyday to improve and challenge yourself. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

I fight with this all the time myself. The key is to remember to think the happy thoughts and to interupt the patterns of bad thoughts. One way is to take something like one of the LiveStrong bracelets or some favorite piece of jewelry. Think about it and say to yourself "when I see this I will think happy thoughts." Do this 10 times each night before you sleep, 10 times each morning, 10 times at lunch and 10 times at dinner.

Eventually, every time you glance at the item, you will remember and think better thoughts. If you have to remind yourself, print this out and tape a copy to the fridge, your car dash, your bathroom mirror, anywhere that you will see it alot. The constant reminder will remind you to do it.

Good luck!

Answer 8

well first of all, you need hope and faith in someone or something. maybe a religious figure, role model, or close friend. you also have to see the good things in life and think about people less fortunate than you. always look at what you do have more than what you don't have. that always helps me! (yeah i know my avatar doesn't show my good attitude but oh well)

Answer 9

Cheer up.Don't feel bad.Aint nothing,but a thing.None of us have positive thoughts all the time!!

Answer 10

stop trying JUST DO IT but seriously go spend some time with Dr. Phil and you - read and practice what you learn in the book Life Laws or his book, SElf Matters