My boyfriend and i have been together for a month and a half. We enjoy each other so much that everyone calls us shadows. We love each other to death but his ex wife is freaking driving us crazy. she is always passing by the house calling his phone or leaving text messages. (they have two kids together) . He tells me that i am his soulmate and that i gave him the best gift he has ever recieved and that is love and apreciation, and in which something his ex has never done. But now he wants space to think, because he loves me and his ex wife so it is basically choosing i am tired and mentally worn down what should i do?
i excepted all the baggage, and it seems everytime we go somewhere she gets all crazy and my boyfriend does not like ignorence and drama. i do so love him but i am confuse.
please mature answers only
2007-03-04 15:43:09 · 8 answers · asked by jada 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, I am sorry you are going through something like this, but it happens sometimes when you get involved with someone who is divorced. I believe that when a person has sex with another, their souls meld and become one (supported by the verse in the Bible that says two become one upon marriage). Give him time to think, but realize that at some level, he will always be attached to his exwife. She sounds like she is being a bit jealous and over-protective, but she may still be attached to him. Give them a chance to work things out (after all, they have children together), and then see what happens. If he is pulling away from both of you for some time to think, give him that time. Realize that he may choose her again, and then go live your life.
2007-03-04 15:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by completenerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound a little harsh but you need to read it. It sound like he isnt totally over her yet. I mean Im sure you are a great girl and he does care for you but the deal is he has two kids with her and hes asking for space. Its only been a month and a half. It's going to be alot harder as time goes on so i would cut him off now while you can still save face.
2007-03-04 23:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Candace T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mature approach would be to give him some space. You can't force someone to choose you. If he does decide that he wants a relationship with you, it needs to be him coming to that conclusion on his own. If he does, he needs to set some boundaries with his ex. If not, you're headed for a life of pain with him. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-04 23:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by Michele D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the ball is in his court at this point he needs to decide over the two of you but it sounds like his ex is crazy if he loved you enough it shouldnt be a hard choice.
2007-03-04 23:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by camie718@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first he says he's you're his soulmate, later he says he loves you and his ex wife? Let him go. Tell him you made his decision easier because you're outta there. Its too complicated, don't get involved.
2007-03-04 23:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hears some friendly advice...... tell him you have 2 go !! he has to much baggage for you. U need a man with No baggage.
2007-03-04 23:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like he does not know what he want.. he still have feeling
'for his ex. and you need to give him the space that he need to
deal with his feeling. but dont wait around for him. and it only
been a ,month so give it time.
2007-03-04 23:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably using your for the sex and he is using the wife as a deversion
2007-03-04 23:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Stiffler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋