i have 2 friends that are going through this. one is a girl and one is a guy. both are in their early 20's.
would you choose someone that you are engaged to that you love but you dont think they love you because of the way they treat you and act around you, but you live with this person,
or would you choose the person that you might have some kind of feeling for and that person has told you that they are in love with you
would you give the other person a chance and call off the engagment. or would you stay with the person you are engaged to?
2007-03-04 15:10:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems to me that if you are going to marry someone you should be head over heels in love with them and be absolutely sure they feel the same way about you...I mean this is your future, the begining of the rest of your life. I feel that if there is serious doubt, beyond just cold feet maybe that person isn't right for your friend. It is hard to make a big change like that, especially if these people are engaged and already living together but your friends have to think about what is best for them.
If it were me, I would call of the engagement because I am not 100% sure that my fiancee is the right person for me. Then, when I am ready to date again, I would probably give that other person a chance and see where it goes.
2007-03-04 15:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be accepting the one that doesn't treat you right or act very good around you...I would be moving out of his place real quick. It will only get worse* If you can SEE him treating you wrong...it's time you LEAVE the Relationship* You deserve better*
As for the person you MIGHT have some kind of feelings for and he has told you he loves you....I would ask HOW can someone love you...that you obviously don't know well enough if you're thinking you MIGHT have some kind of feelings for. Leave the first guy for sure that she's living with , and get to know the other guy that "loves you"...see where that goes to...but NOT meaning engagement to him either at this time*
2007-03-04 15:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not choose the one I am engaged to. I don't understand how someone can be engaged to someone who they don't think treats them right. I would not choose the person that I might have "some kind of feeling for" either. It sounds a little too much and not definite. For those reasons, I would not choose either one of those two
2007-03-04 15:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a VERY important step for the rest of your life. Underestimated by most people getting or are engaged. I have been married 15 years and it is a lot of work. You hear everyone say communication is important in a marriage. If behavior is off now then better get communication going NOW. Walking down the isle doesn't fix existing problems of treatment. If people spent more time on the mental and relational side of a relationship then sexual activity too soon, then emotional treatment is first and sex is an extension of a beautiful thing.
2007-03-04 15:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by Dennis James 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feeling of "infatuated love" usually only lasts about 2 years. That is why it is a good idea to be engaged for over 2 years, to see if the love is there after the thrill wears off.
If your friends are having doubts about their relationships, I would recommend A) not butting in in the long run it will only damage your friendships, and B) that they hold of on the marriage.
2007-03-04 15:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by djk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking off an engagement is a big thing, but how do you get engaged to someone who doesnt treat you well and acts funny around you in the first place? I say if they arent into you, dont force it...
2007-03-04 15:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think someone would ask you to marry them if they didn't love you BUT if you don't FEEL the love that's another story, there is a dis-connect somewhere in this relationship.
I would say if there is this much doubt, than you best call off the wedding and do some soul searching!
2007-03-04 15:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by TriciaC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take a week and tell the fiancee that you want to see how things really are going. take that week and spend time with the other person and see how things go. if sparks fly, please call off the engagement and have fun with the other person. if you think that this is immoral, stay in the not-so-good relationship with the fiancee. need more advice? have more questions? email me at amymrgrt@yahoo.com....
2007-03-04 15:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by amymrgrt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly if an beautiful lady got here as much as me and started a communication it wouldnt be creepy in any respect. the only creepy element you are able to say is " hi the place do you reside?" Out of no the place. that is extraordinary. yet once you stated like hi, or how are you doing or something alongside those lines it wouldnt be creepy. you may desire to assert hi and smile. If the guy is like me he could smile and if he didnt he could be smiling on the interior haha
2016-09-30 05:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by barnell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, "2 FRIENDS" why don't you admit that this is you and sorry but only you can decide what to do, we do not know the type of person these 2 people are and making a decision on the basis of answers from faceless (in my case sexy) people is foolish
RIDE EM' COW GIRL YEEEE HAAAAAHH
2007-03-04 15:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by Modus Operandi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋