so there is a dance coming up at my school and i haven't been to a dance this year (because they all came when i was "getting over" guys.. haha..so yeah..) but anyways all my friends are going, and my friends don't always necessarily just ask Guys They Like.. but just ask guys that are friends and that they'd Like to go on a date with.. because it's casual at a dance and stuff.. and so i really want to ask one of my guy friends.. but i don't know if it would be horrible to, since one of my friends has a Huge crush on him.. but she can't ask him though because her mom won't let her.. so can i not ask him as just a friend? because i don't want to lose a friendship over it, just want to go to the dance with him.. and don't say find another guy, because all the other guys are seriously taken.. girls are vicious when it comes to asking to dances. but if i ask her about it all she will say is you can ask him.. but i know she won't probably mean it.. is this wrong to do? it wont Mean anything
2007-03-04 15:04:25 · 11 answers · asked by coolio 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would still say to confront your friend and tell her exactly what you said here. Tell her you want a date for the dance and would like to ask this boy to go with you just as friends. Also tell her that you know how she feels about him and asking him to this dance is no where near as important to you as her friendship and if she is uncomfortable with you going with him you won't ask. I feel if you just ask him without telling her first she will get the wrong impression. Hope that helps!
2007-03-04 15:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just to let you know, if you KNOW you won't EVER have any intentions like THAT EVER, then yes it's cool to ask a guy out.
In the future if you can see yourself liking him "that way", NO. NEVER. NO. Don't ever ask guys that you DO like out either.
Why? Because even if you DO get together, after all that, he won't ever really be able to treasure you to the max. Think about it. He did not like you enough to risk rejection and overcome the paralyzing fear of just asking you out. What does that mean? He didn't feel a super strong gut level attraction for you. If you want a satisfying relationship, you need a guy who really really wants you. Not that he needs to be a freaky, obsessive creep, but that he thought you were worth the humiliation of rejection.
So right now, see if you really will forever like him as a friend. If that's all he will be, then go ahead. If not, you can still do it, but keep what I said in mind.
Franklin
2007-03-04 23:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way, In a few years high school will be over and you and her won't even remember what happened. Life goes on! Ask him out! The world won't come to an end, I promise.
2007-03-04 23:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by Big Bull 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you should ask him out. If this girl has liked him for a really long time or if she just REALLY likes him, you shouldn't interfere. I think you should ask your friend how she HONESTLY feels about it, or have a different friend ask the one who likes him. How long has this girl liked this guy?? and how long have you liked this guy?? put yourself in her shoes...wouldnt you be DEVESTATED if the guy of your dreams was dating your friend?? girl, i think you should be subtle and try to get over this guy...he cant be worth hurting her feeling over or losing her as a friend...she would probably be hurt....i no i would be.
2007-03-05 00:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could, but it might be uncomfortable. Ask her first.
6 years ago when I was in high school, my single friends and I went as a group. We had males and females and it was a blast. Can you do that instead?
2007-03-04 23:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get both of them together and ask him in front of her making sure to say it is just a friend thing not a real date.
2007-03-04 23:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ask hiim cuz it might break her heart if he says yes... she might take it the wrong way and think he loves you.... if no guys are left just go with some of your friends. dances are for fun so have lots of fun
2007-03-04 23:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by imaperson=] 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask your friend first before you ask him. make sure she's okay with it becuse you don't want to lose her friendship over a guy. but otherwise, totally go for it.
2007-03-04 23:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by DivaHawk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you do this.............Come up to him and say, "So, I will see you at the dance, right? Save a song for me."
That's all it would take.
2007-03-04 23:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask! Make sure he understands it just as friends, and tell your chick friend that youll help her out by giving him hints! Its win-win-win!
2007-03-04 23:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by Dez K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋