How can I break up with this kid?

Question

I would REALLY appreciate it if someone could tell me how I can break up with this kid I've been seeing for a few months. We both live in different towns, and I'm always really busy and don't feel like I have the time to devote to someone else, and quite frankly... I don't like him as much as I used to. Lot's of people keep telling me to just let it run its course b/c I'm just not used to it, but even when he calls me...I don't always answer the phone...and I delete his messages. (This sounds horrible)*
What can I do/say? I don't want to hurt him, but I think that if I don't say something sooner or later...I will anyway....HELP/SOS

Answer 1

be completely honest with him and tell him that you're always really busy and you don't want to hurt his feelings by being preoccupied with other things. tell him it would just be best if you went your separate ways.

you don't have to tell him about not liking him, but tell him what i just said.

Answer 2

Just tell him. I had a guy give me the run around a few months ago and when he FINALLY came clean he ruined any chances of me ever talking to him again. Let's put it this way - I found out over email he met someone else and never bothered to responsed, not even to tell him what I really think of him which would involve a lot of editing before I could post it up here.

He will find out. And when he does, he will feel worse than if you had been honest. So just be honest, tell him and move on.

Answer 3

Write him an email letting him know that you've decided to move on and he should do the same. The distance is too much, you have alot going on with your life right now..(busy...either work, school, activities..) and don't have the time to devote to anyone right now. Tell him you've enjoyed the times you two shared...but it really won't work out as your life is taking a different direction. Tell him you wanted to be honest with him...and don't want to hurt his feelings...but Honesty is the best way* GOODLUCK*

Answer 4

I was in the same situation not even just an hour ago. This whole thing is not healthy at all. BE REAL tell this kid how you feel and what you need. It hurt too much to be in a long distant relationship specially when you young.

Answer 5

You will hurt him no matter what you do. Quite likely, you're just hurting him and confusing him by staying quiet and don't responding his messages. And probably this is worse than taking the bulls by the horns and talking with him and explaining to him that although it hurts, you have to break up because you're not in love with him. Explain to him your reasons.

It will be hard talking about this, I know this from experience, but it is probably the best way for both of you.

Answer 6

You say you don't want to hurt him!!! Hello!!!! What do you think you are doing now? Stop playing games and just tell the truth. You and this guy will both feel better and then move on with your life. Honesty is still the best policy even if it is painful. No one ever said life is easy and fair. So grow up, suck it up and tell him!!! Good luck!!

Answer 7

Be honest...sort of. "I have gotten so busy lately I just don't seem to have enough hours in the day. We are so far apart from each other , so let's just e-mail a couple of times a week to keep in touch. That way we can concentrate on what is happing close to home and neither of us will feel negleted.
Try to avoid the "My feeling have changed" because his haven't or "It's not you it's me" , cause he will still feel terrible,
One of these days you may realize this guy is wonderful or you may need him as a friend, so it is best to be kind, but still step back from his orbit. Good luck.

Answer 8

woahhhh, omg wow, this is EXACTLEY, like not even kidding like word for exact word, the way my old bf n me were like and how he felt, he was in ur position, and i was in "this kid's" position, and we were in different towns and everything, its actually really pretty scary reading this, ok ew,ok well , it turned out that he dumped me n it sucked for a really long time, it hurt a lot, so i guess u obviously r gonna wind up dumping him, so wut i would do is to,dump him urself, over the phone, or internet if it is really that hard, but the phone would probablly be more respectfulish, but definitly do not have someone else do it for you, then, just tell him nicely, dont like totally drop it, and just give him the reasons and then explain it all to him, but be nice about it, and even tho u definitly dont want to be dealing with him, u have to go through with it,n just think of it like u will never have to deal with him again, if u just tell him everything now, and let it all out, so he wont have any questions, and that he will be ok with it, n then after that, u wont have to worry about him again. but be nice about it all! good luck!=)

Answer 9

You are being really immature. Just be upfront about it. Do it in person if you can. You should always break up in person if you can. It is the proper mature thing to do. Just meet the person and let them know how you feel. Dragging things out is very immature and only leads to more problems.

Answer 10

Erm, How old are you and how old is this kid? If you want to break up with this kid then you need to talk to him in person tell him that you don't wish this relationship to continue. Be honest as to why, don't lie and hurt him more than he's going to hurt already.