Break Up?!?

Question

Does anyone experience a break up that your bf disappear totally out of your life? Why does he do that? How do u deal with it?

Answer 1

I did once long time ago and it really confused me at the time. However, I just let it go after talking to a couple adults. n

Answer 2

Well, I'm looking at this from a guys view. But I guess that would also apply if after a breakup, an ex would just disappear from my life, I guess.

Maybe you're hurting now, but I think it's for the best to make a clean breakup than continuing putting logs to the fire. It's more likely that your ex bf decided to cut you out of your life because he wanted to continue with his life, than just trying to stay friends, but it would be an awkward situation.

Answer 3

Because trying to be friends after you've been in a seriously relationship is way too hard and basically impossible and maybe he knows that. If one side has feelings...they know that you are meeting them cause your hoping for more where as they want to be clear of the relationship, be free, and move on. If it's over...let it be over. Don't prolong the pain by keeping going back.

Answer 4

I used to do that. For me, it was the only way I could get over them (and these were long term, monogamous relationships).

The relationship was passionate and deep for me, and it hurt too much to keep them in my life. As I got older, though, I realized the benefits of staying friends (after a cooling off period). To this day, I have not spoken to my first love, but think of him every now and then (and still have sentiments).

I didn't do it to hurt THEM, I did it to HELP me get over them, especially if they broke up with ME.

Answer 5

you make a promise to yourself to never let anybody else treat you like a dog. no temper tantrums or loud outbursts. just resolve to make it part of you way of life. you treat me nice and try to make a good relationship and act mature or you go. and you need to learn to live alone like maybe your grand mama or somebody an aunt whatever. alone without a boy friend can be just fine. change your phone number refuse to answer the door and call the cops if necessary. go a year without before you even consider hooking up with anybody else. you need time to really learn a lot before you are competent to deal with men. you are not so good at seeing a good man from the flakes and users and abusers. lol

Answer 6

Guys do that either because he's embarrassed or he just doesn't want to deal with you or.. he doesn't want to deal with the criticizing or something around there. You deal with it by leaving him alone for a while and then after a couple weeks or months if you want t obe his friend than talk to him a little bit more ask him to come hang out with you and your friends tell him you don't want him totaly gone that you want to be friends with him.

Answer 7

I went through it since last summer. Its was extremelty difficult. Everytime I tried to talk to him, he didnt want to confront me. I stopped a month ago. ITs sad, but its his loss. He truly has issues. Im sorry you are going through this. I had to get therapy and its helped along with good friends and putting myself back together. Its very hard and i m not going to tell you to let it go, because I know what its like. Time heals. Its been 8 months for me and I dont cry as much anymore.

Answer 8

if he is vanishing in your sight, just learn to forget him. not just following him for nothing. find another guy that will love you as you.