Does it matter how experienced your partner is?
2007-03-04 14:54:05 · 16 answers · asked by i heart youu. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it hurts..
many factors play into it, but your partner's experience isn't really a big one. consider these things:
- your age -- if you are too young, your gentials aren't developed enough to allow sex comfortably
- your partner's size -- although it will hurt no matter what, if he is rather large it will hurt worse.
- lubrication -- whether personal or something you buy, it's good to be lubed up.. it helps it glide more easily.
- pace -- if he is too hard or too rough with you, especially in the beginning, it will hurt worse.
- your nerves -- if you are nervous or scared, you'll be more tight that usual. relax and be "in the mood".. it'll make things better.
and most importantly
- if it doesn't work the first time (i.e. it doesn't go in, or it hurts too much for you to tolerate) it doesn't mean you're not ready, it just means you need to try again.
but you have to remember the philosophy of "no pain, no gain".. it's gotta happen sometime sweetie, and no matter when you do it, or who you do it with, it's gonna hurt..
2007-03-04 15:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by ashwee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually a little, and it actually does have a little to do with how experienced your partner is. More experienced partners will tend to be more gentle if they know you're a virgin (unless he's a jerk). Sometimes it can hurt a guy a little to have sex with a virgin. You just need to both be emotionally and mentally prepared, and physically aroused. Go slow and use protection. It should only hurt the first few times.
2007-03-04 22:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a number of factors that come into play. It's gonna hurt initially but to what extent in depends on the guy. There are so many different variables that come into play here. Size, experience, position, technique, how aroused you are or are not, lube. Seriously give this some thought before you do it. Peace out.
2007-03-04 22:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and yes. You should really ask someone that you know questions like this though b/c it's crutial that you get an answer that you can trust. This really could put you in risk of not only getting the wrong answer but giving out info about yourself that sickos are on the prowl for... Be careful & safe & protected
2007-03-04 22:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Becky B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most people say that it does hurt.. but it didn't hurt me a bit.. and i am very sensative to pain... it felt good... it does not matter how experienced he is, but he needs to be gentile... he should know its ur first time... u may even bleed a little... but just be calm and relaxed, and be safe.. and don't lose it in a car.... thats not a memory u want to have...
2007-03-04 23:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by shiningstar1313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can hurt. Lubricant and being calm helps. It does not matter how experienced your partner is.
2007-03-04 22:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can be painful the first time. Sometimes even the first couple of times. It does get better with time. Just make sure your that you are mature enough to handle a sexual relationship and take all necessary precautions.
2007-03-04 22:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And it has nothing to do with your partner's experience. What helps is your partner's understanding that this is your first time, so he can do it gently, also he should stop if you ask him to.
2007-03-04 23:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by trax2345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some girls it hurts and for others it doesnt.
go here for no info on why it may or may not hurt you
http://www.coolnurse.com/hymen.htm
also it depends on the size of the guy
2007-03-04 22:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a girl has never had intercourse before, the first time is a new experience and you may experience some soreness simply because your body has never been in that situation before.
2007-03-04 22:57:32 · answer #10 · answered by hot mama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋