ok so this guy and i were not officially together yet.. getting there i thought.. and then one night his best friend texts me and says he likes some other girl.. and has been liking her for Three weeks. my guy had then been leading Me on still for those three weeks.. because even just Two days before this my guy told me he Really liked me and all this stuff.. and throughout the whole 3 weeks he still kept texting Every day and calling almost every day too... so this especially hurt because i'd been blindsighted and didn't expect it at all since he led me on.. it came as a complete surprise. then his excuse was just that: he didn't like being with someone he thought was too good for him.. and who was so much smarter and better looking than him... and that he thought other guys were always looking at me and he didn't like being jealous. i know he has a low self-esteem and stuff but i Never gave him reason to think this.. are they just excuses? did i do something wrong?! :( i can't figure
2007-03-04 14:48:53 · 8 answers · asked by coolio 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also he was never the type of guy to do that to a girl his friends said.. he is a "committer" so to speak, where he always played it out if he really liked a girl.. and he Did really like me. so why didn't he want to try with ME.. what was wrong with me.. i don't get it. i really actually cared about him.. and Now this new girl has changed him for the worst, and with me he was Himself.. i'm so confused.. any help?
2007-03-04 14:51:05 · update #1
There is nothing the matter with you and the only thing wrong you did was to like a guy who turned out to be a jerk. Unfortunately, it hurts when it happens and its hard to understand why someone would act like that. You only knew him 3 weeks and you were lucky he showed who and what he was before you wasted any more time on him.
Excuses are just that excuses. He's trying to rationalize why he hurt you and relieve himself of any guilt. Don't waste any more time on him when the world is waiting. Just chalk it up to experience and I'm really sorry it happened to you.
2007-03-04 14:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is hurtful..I would try to talk to him via phone or face to face or even in an email and ask is there something you did wrong because you felt you and him were becoming solid*, then you find out he's been pondering after this other girl for 3 weeks meanwhile texting you daily and calling you. Tell him straight up you're confused and could he explain again Why he would do this?
If he continues to say ...you're too good for him, smarter and better looking than him....Tell him that's a "lame" excuse and he knows it...then tell him Thanks for answering me...have a good life*
Move on* YOU DID NOTHING WRONG*~! better to find out now about how he truely is...than be with him and find out ....If he's changed for the worse with this other girl...Hopefully he'll wake up and smell the coffee and realize what a jerk he has been.
2007-03-04 14:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Coolieo, girl chill fo a sec. ok. you say his guy was always around you, and texting too? There is nothing wrong with you first of all, He's an idiot, at least that's what it seems like and if he didn't take his chance with you just think he's missing out on somethings that he can't get from any other girl ,but you. he'll come back looking for more and that's the chance to tell him how you really feel about him.
2007-03-04 15:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You were probably just caught in the middle of this guy trying to decide who he liked for himself. That sucks, but at least he let you know and didn't KEEP leading you on. Plus, if he really was feeling jealous and has that low of self-esteem, then the relationship would have been pretty difficult anyways. Trust me, it is NOT fun to be in a relationship with a jealous guy.
Don't think that you did anything wrong. Just move on and keep your head up!
2007-03-04 14:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by ydostarsshine4me 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Uh huh...he was lying.
Yet...YOU are crying tears-of-disappointment over somebody who's not worth it.
Dry your eyes and leave him alone...all the way around.
He's not the only man in the world.
If he were, all of us would have something major to cry about.
Put his @ss on the clearance-table; loose him and let him go!
When he stops and looks back at what he's done, he'll regret it.
In the meantime, move on to someone else!
2007-03-04 14:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with you!! You didn't do anything wrong!! You just got played thats all. His reasons are all EXCUSES!! Weak ones at that! He's just a pup, honey! Don't worry about him. Life goes on!
2007-03-04 15:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by Big Bull 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like the guys is just BSing u with all kinds of excuses the problem isnt with u at all its his lose so go on and find someone that deserves u
2007-03-04 14:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by Robert C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure he's a committer...look at how quickly he made you his girlfriend!
He sounds like a horny teenager who just wants female attention with no strings attached. Forget him and move on.
2007-03-04 14:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋