I'm having these serious problems with a co-worker of mine. This person is mentally unbalanced, or at least acts like it, but usually treated me decent. There have been times when --- has yelled at me unnecessarily, & made me cry... & just all around treated me badly. I let it go, though...
Something happened, which I won't go into detail about, but now -- is treating me badly consistently, going as far as to make phony complaints about me, & does nothing but yell at me & make me feel terrible. I've been crying at work because of --, & I'm on the verge of tears right now, because I'm just afraid of dealing with this person's nonsense. --- has done this to other co-workers, & managed to get most of them fired, so now I'm in fear for my job.
Aside from ---, I don't want to leave there, & don't think I should have to. How do I work around this person though, when I know they're going to be constantly riding me & making me feel like dirt?
2007-03-04 14:46:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do I deal with them going behind my back & making up things? I know why --'s treating me like this, it's pretty awful, & I know I have no choice but to tell someone... but I rather would not...
Any tips on how I can just deal with the ill-treatment, until --- moves on to someone else?
Aside from yelling at me, & talking to me in a demeaning tone, this person is going to play some serious head games... Like, taking away responsibilities from me & giving them to other co-workers, talking down to me, & other things...
I was abused when I was younger, so being treated like this again is seriously affecting me. I have no tolerance for it, because I've already put up with so much of it. I'm not a crybaby, I'm just at my wits end & can't take it anymore. The feeling I have inside of me right now is so awful, I can't describe it.
2007-03-04 14:47:06 · update #1
Well, you have legal rights against harrassment of any kind. I suggest you contact the EEOC representative for your company and see if you have enough to file a complaint.
2007-03-04 14:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing great and keep your head up. See ppl like that act the way they do b/c they feel bad about themselves and or something in their life. If I were you I would do a great job at work, do extra things to make you stand out like a good employee, and I would ask to speak to your boss or if it is your boss that is the problem go the the next person in the chain or command. Tell them whats going on, in-terms of what the facts are that you can prove. Explain how this is not the working environment anyone should be in and if they are good at there jobs and do what they are supposed to they will try to fix it, if nothing else your "case" will be on paper so if something happens down the road you will have prof on what is going on.
2007-03-04 15:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by debate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to talk to your supervisor and HR. There is no reason someone should treat you like this.
I'm a little concerned that other workers have been fired because of this person, so be aware that managers might be in cahoots.
If you don't find a good resolution after talking with the higher-ups, I would highly recommend a transfer or a new job. It sucks that it has to be this way, but your job isn't providing you with a healthy work environment. If they don't see fit to stop it, you need to leave for your own sanity.
Good luck. :)
2007-03-04 14:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 05:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by betker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a journal, take a couple of audio/video recordings. Go over their heads, anonymously, to a Superior. Then you'll have a case. Looks like somebody on a little power trip.
2007-03-04 15:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do NOT have to just take it! You need to report it to your supervisor. If this coworker *is* your supervisor, then you need to go up the chain of command (his/her supervisor). This person is creating a hostile work environment for you, and that is NOT okay. You have a right to a safe and supportive work environment. And this person needs to learn that it is not okay to treat you OR ANYONE ELSE in this way. Good luck!!
2007-03-04 14:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by kittenpie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't and shouldn't have to deal with this. It sounds like your involved in what is called a "hostile work environment"
Please seek out a supervisor, and if this person is your supervisor, go to someone higher. There are laws in every state and country that will protect you from this type of harasment.
You deserve better than this!
2007-03-04 14:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way i c is 2 stand up 4 urself ask him r her y ? what is the problem? also let them know that after they finish yelling u will still have the same job. try acting unaffected eventually they'll stop just pray & be strong
2007-03-04 14:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by pretty black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your co-worker seems HORRIBLE!! If you love your lob then you should stay but at least try to talk o him. He is the problem and you have to gather your courage to speak up to him. If he really bothers you then quit. Hope this helps!****
2007-03-04 14:52:08 · answer #9 · answered by lynette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok............here is the help....step by step....
phase I
1- always give him smile when he is alone.
2-ignore him in public.
3-always give him maximum attitude and respect.when the boss is not around.
4-start every conversation with......"you dont know".."its not like that"..
5-always look into his eyes as you ARE TALKING TO NO ONE..
6-HAVE LITTLE DOSE OF CONFIDENCE DAILY.
2007-03-04 15:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋