can anyone answer this without being sarcastic?

Question

while casually sleeping with someone, you start to develop nfeelings for them.
You realise you're not interested in looking at other guys anymore.
The guy you are sleeping with - he tells you that he hasn't been sleeping with anyone else since you two got together.
He picks you up and your baby - who you had to someone else and takes you both for drives and out for lunch, and even holds the baby while you are out together.
you stay at his house sometimes and when you do you lie together, laugh together, and he holds you and kisses you alot.
he rings to see how your day was.
BUT when you first got together he says he doesn't want a serious relationship right now.
Is it possible that he's feelings could of changed over time now that we have been spending so much time together?
Being with him feels right and if you saw us together you would think we were such a happy couple (even though we arent!)
but thats what i mean we look like we are.
is there a chance for this?

i just want to let you know that i am not involving my child the way some of you make out to be!
this guy is a geniunely lovely person and has since asked me if i want to take our relationshio further.
thank you to you all out there who gave me positive feedback.

Answer 1

Bubz, you may have a keeper there. Buttake your time and give him space there is no reason to rush what already seems to be an awesome relationship.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Unless you are not married, and you have a character called ''husband'' in your life, yea, why should'nt you be happy ? Looks like he does care, and everything he does sounds sweet. What he told you the first time around, could change over time with you two spending so much time together, but please do be careful that one day he does not tell you ''okay, i told you i cant think of anything serious right now''....So enjoy your relationship, let him tell you something different from what he told you first, while also keeping a check on yourself that you do not get carried away and emotionally breakdown if, I am only saying 'if', he says something to hurt you. The best way again would be to check yourself, from having too much of time spent with him, where you just feel so right, and perhaps he has something else in mind....as long as you are emotionally on guard, just go along with it. I do not think this guy would hurt you, but then still...dont want to see you hurt..and iam almost sure he wont hurt you..

good luck

Answer 3

There is a chance that his feelings have changed. It sounds highly possible BUT I wouldn't hold my breath about it. One of the biggest complaints from men about women is that they don't listen or pay attention to the obvious or "we hear what we wanna hear" if the guy told you that he doesn't want a serious relationship. Maybe he likes the idea of being around, doing nice things for you and your baby, and treating you nice without the commitment. He could just be happy to be in a no committment involved relationship like this. I suggest taking things for what they are. I would not assume anything. Just imagine that he is a good friend who happens to give you some good benefits. Keep your thoughts centered on his initial statement about not wanting a serious relationship until HE SAYS otherwise.

Answer 4

Honey, I know you would really love for this to work out especially since you seem to be a single parent of a small baby. I sincerely wish that this guy has changed his mind and will eventually marry you. However, you must keep the fact that he does not want a serious relationship in the back of your mind so that you do not get too hurt if ever he tells you it is over. Of course in the mean time you should try your best to win him over, don't try to force the issue, go at his pace, be very sincere in your endeavours, go out of your way to make your moments together so beautiful that he will want to spend the rest of his life with you. Don't let him ever get the feeling that you are trying to trap him. Good luck and God Bless you and your baby.

Answer 5

It's very possible that his feelings have changed. Honesty is the best policy. You need to ask him straight out. Just say to him something like this, " I know that at first we said that we didn't want a relationship and we would just be "friends with benefits", but we've been spending a lot of time together and my feelings have changed. I think about seeing other guys and I am just wondering if what we have is still a casual thing or are we taking it to a committed relationship?"

Good luck hon.

Answer 6

It's possible that his feelings have changed. It sounds like the two of you entered into your relationship with openness and honesty from the start, so maybe you should tell him that you respect that fact and you've found your feelings have started evolve into something deeper than just casual sex. If he says that he doesn't feel the same way, then you will have to decide if you can continue sleeping with him knowing he doesn't feel the same way about you. Then again, he might just say that he's falling for you, too. Good luck, hon!

Answer 7

well if he said that at first then I think there are two possibilities
1. He has changed and does want a deep serious relationship
2. This is how he acts in non-serious relationships.

I think you should have a talk with him and ask him how he sees your relationship. It sounds nice, but if I were you and I didn't know how he saw it i would be nervous. So ask him if you're really just a fling or if you're serious and exclusive and really mean a lot to him. Who knows, maybe you could convince him to be serious with you. Anyway, since you're not really a happy couple I think it's because of this uncertainty.

But really you should have been serious before sleeping with him.

Answer 8

well im telling you right now that I was in this situation, i for awhile was afaid to be in a relationship, because i thought i was bisexual. t really hurts, but i tried "friend" ships with girls, sleeping by them in their bed, hanging out, but never did anything. But the girl I hung out was ugly, so maybe that is why I did nothing. But the man you are with has a fear of getting himself hurt. Just say to him in a serious tone that you know he is bisexual, make sure you dont say gay. Cause he likes to kiss you. His fear also might be because he has an STD. Or that he has problems with getting his penis erect during sexual intercourse. Ask him if it is anyone of these three, chances are it will be. If not, he might just find you unattractive. And that friends is all your going to get. Also remember not to hate him as a friend if he does not want to be together with you.

Answer 9

Zero chance! Nada, zilch. You are his bed partner and that's it! The laughing and talking and fun times were done to keep you in bed when ever he wanted you! He will change alright his mind because once a boy has what he wants he tires of it fast! He will try to keep you in case he cant sleep with anyone else. That's called being his back pocket girl! He will keep you there and take you out when ever he wants to. You can change this if you want, but I feel you will have to learn this truth on yr own! live and learn. Good luck sweety!

Answer 10

When you are casually sleeping with somebody and you spend a lot of time together, naturally feelings change. You get used to having each other around. Where the relationship will lead to is anybodies guess. If you want it be patient and give it time.

Answer 11

Of course there is a chance. But if you are not sure where things stand then why not just ask the guy. If he says that it is just a casual relationship then you have to respect the fact that he was honest and told you upfront that is all he wanted. Sounds like he may have changed his mind though.